Thread: relationship getting stagnant

My bf and I have been together for almost two years.... we have also seen each other (spending time) a lot. I mean like almost everyday. Don't get me wrong, I love him dearly, and we want to settle down with each other. The thing that creeps in my mind is that... have we gone boring? I mean we don't have much to talk about anymore... we do talk about other things...but I'm just afraid it's going into that "uh... what do i say" phase. He's going through a lot right now with family issues....

I want to keep things exciting but I feel that it's difficult for me since I'm in therapy and have less motivation lately. I know that the exciting new phase comes when you're in a relationship for the first time... Is this how married life is? I mean we do interact and do things together... so it's not THAT bad. I just want to make things more exciting and fun, but again I don't have the motivation to do it... how do I get motivation?

Oops...think. What fun stuff have you not tried that you want to try and is enjoyable.

Motivation is hard to achieve if you do not start anything no matter how simple. Just get your butt off, go to the bookstore and find something to read (hopefully you can both read it together), or ask him to go with you, then visit the movie aisle or the music aisle and find something you both want to watch or listen to.

When we end up in a bookstore, hubby and I used to scan sex books and tease each other.

How about trying board games, i.e. scrabble, mah-jong (LOL), risk, twixt, UNO, anything you both enjoy. How about cook together or do some house cleaning together?

IDK...you can come up with something I believe. Dig deeper in your treasure chest....go back to your inner child and ask. The answer is there.