Would this upset you? Am I being silly?

**SecretlySad** · 01-18-2010 03:07 PM

I was just on Facebook (evil, evil Facebook lol

) and I stumbled across some photos of my ex boyfriend and first love, who I dated about 10 years ago.

I was surprised and honestly quite hurt to find that he is still in contact with all his exes but me. I am not sure how to feel about this. Obviously he is my ex for a reason, but I still feel a little hurt.

**rcoreyus** · 01-18-2010 03:39 PM

Try not to be upset. There are lots of reasons he might not be in contact with you. Could range from him hating you forever, to him not really being over the pain of losing you, to simply forgetting to add you to his contacts.

**yellowpiXi3** · 01-18-2010 04:37 PM

Yeah i would agree with rcoreyus, try not to think about it. stop snooping on your ex. he's is an ex for a reason. just be glad that you're not hanging on to the past. Ex's are a lot of drama... do you really want that in your life right now?

**SecretlySad** · 01-18-2010 04:40 PM

No of course not. I originally just wanted to see what he looked like now hehe.

I just felt a tinge of offence that he no longer wants to be in contact with me but he does with other ex girlfriends. I am sure I am reading too much into it but it kinda makes me question my character you know...

Our breakup was mutual and it didn't end badly so I am a tad confused.

**Hopeless Dork** · 01-18-2010 04:40 PM

Could be he didn't find you - could be those ladies sought him out on fb and added him and not the other way around. Now if u added him and he declined then maybe some hard feelings there but I wouldn't assume so on just u not be in his contacts.

Or maybe he doesn't want to know how ur doing as to not feel hurt at how ur happy etc lots of things like that could be.

Important thing is that it doesn't matter. Sometimes the past is better right where it is.

**Explorer44** · 01-18-2010 05:46 PM

So is there a reason you can't 'friend' him?

**Mes T** · 01-18-2010 05:51 PM

IMO exs are past, gone, see ya, have a nice life, etc.

I wouldn't be too happy if my boyfriend came to me and told me that he was upset because an ex of his didn't friend him on facebook or something to that extent. I'd start thinking that he wasn't over that person or not happy enough with me.

**SecretlySad** · 01-18-2010 06:24 PM

Hmmm, good point Mes.

Explorer you know what boys can be like sometimes... you pay any attention to them and they think you're still hot for them, plus I don't think my boyfriend would like me reconnecting with my exes, I certainly wouldn't like him reconnecting with his. As Mes said, exs are past, gone, see ya, have a nice life.

I am just friends with so many of his friends and am sure that he has seen my posts before... meh. Nevermind, just me making a mountain again.