Thread: Am I worrying too much?

sounds like he likes a little more sleep that ave and you like a little less.

Being tired makes people very irritable and a little selfish.

If he needs the sleep you will have to let him have it. Problem is I read somewhere if you go to bed together at the saem toime you are more likely to stay together. I assume this is to do partly with sex and partly with bonding.

Try and find a middle time you can both accept or go to bed early half the week and stay up the other half

Hope it works out sounds like a little bump on an otherwise perfect road

Fb

Originally Posted by pretzel

I take it from the post that he's working for a CPA firm. If he's about the same age (mid 20's) then he's probably a grunt answering to a senior staff accountant. Or possibly is a senior answering to a partner.

Reality, you think it's bad now, wait til March/April. You won't see him and when you do he'll be so strung out you won't know him. Both or you are also in school, add that to the mix.

My suggestion, compromise a little. Go to bed a little earlier and spend some good quality time together a little more, extend those hours on the weekend.

Pretzel,

He's actually a manager (he's in his early 30s and I'm in my late 20s) so it's not grunt work, but he does a LOT of returns, so yes, I am sure by March/April he'll be strung out. He's already apologized in advance for if he ever gets short with me the next couple of months. I know he's going to need a little bit of "breathing room" to get through the next 75 days or so...

That being said, I am prepared to spend more time focusing on me and getting things done during that time that I need to. I just don't know how to address the sleep issue. I mean, he invites me over. I try to go to sleep, but well it's kind of a catch-22. Obviously, I want to have sex with him. One night this week, I said no, we really need to sleep because it was already so late.

I don't want to make him feel like I'm deciding for him, BUT at the same time, I don't want to feel like whether he means to or not, that he might blame me for his exhaustion?

Along that same line... I have also been considering trying to help him out some during tax season... I thought about maybe making a meal for him or a little "care package" with deli meat, cheese, bread and some fruit and snacks so he could have one less thing to worry about... But not sure if that might be a bit "much"?

Originally Posted by Futureboy

If he needs the sleep you will have to let him have it. Problem is I read somewhere if you go to bed together at the saem toime you are more likely to stay together. I assume this is to do partly with sex and partly with bonding.

Try and find a middle time you can both accept or go to bed early half the week and stay up the other half


Fb

FB, thanks for the advice.

I don't mind going to bed earlier. I just have gotten used to not because I just trained myself not to. I have days where I am ready for bed by 9:00 myself. I don't really try to get him to stay up, it just kind of seems to happen. That's why I kind of don't know how to address. But when we both don't get done with school until like 8:30 or 9:00 I'm just not sure how early is feasible in order to get things accomplished.

yes you are worrying too much. if he wants to have sex, and you want to have sex, then have sex. if it's late and he's a bit tired the next day...

oh well!

the care package idea is great!