Thread: Right or wrong decision

A woman, angry and hurt, might take an
animate dildo to bed, and the whole time
she's thinking about hurting her Man.

The guy in bed with her doesn't exist.
He's just a tool.
And after she's done whatever she set
out to accomplish, she can drop that
animate dildo faster than a used toilet
tissue, because she never was unfaithful
to her Man.

She never loved the animate dildo, and if
her Man hadn't done whatever, she'd never
be in bed with the A.D.

So it is different.
When emotions aren't activated, it is
different from where a woman loves someone
or even lusts after him so that he is not
an A.D. but his own Man.

Many times men go out to have sex with
females and tell them a load of **** to
get them into bed, and carry on one long
affair where there is some affection moving
from him to her.

Maybe he doesn't want to lose his wife/g.f.
but his affair is important to him.

The wife or g.f. doesn't have to do anything
wrong for him to cheat. He just does.

So it is different.

It's hard to tell if a person will not cheat again. You have to find out why he cheated in the first place. Some guys don't view dating as having to be loyal. You should have already discussed this enough by now - since you said you are getting married - before deciding if you wanted to still marry him. My experience is if a guy feels he can get away with things on you and it's easy, he will most likely do it again. You should seek counseling before you get married and address some serious issues.

Originally Posted by livvy

Ok my boyfriend and I was going for three years and he cheated on me with his co-worker (he's a police officer). He took her away twice and on one of these trips his mom was there I felt like a fool because his family and I was so close. After a while by myself and thinking about it I forgave him and now we are getting married. He has change police station and our relationship is going GREAT even better then before his unfaithfulness. But I'm wondering if I'm making the right choice by marrying him. Do you think he truly change.

I think the two of you should see someone before you get married and iron all of this out. I dont believe "men will never change" as someone stated before...I do think every situation is unique in its own way. We can all give all the advice in the world...but only you truly know what to do. If you want this to work (for the right reasons...) I would say to give it a chance...but only if he is willing to put in 110% to make everything better. He messed up...you shouldnt be the one trying to fix everything on your own. I always say I would NEVER stay with someone who cheated...and I still dont think I would...but I really dont know unless I was in the situation.

Good luck!