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Can you teasingly ask him?
"Oh so you're my BF but I'm not your GF? How does that work?
What do you think of this???
My BF of 6 weeks tells me he loves me and his behavior very much matches up with that. He is very kind and considerate of me, there for me, calls me everyday, goes out of his way to see me, which is a lot, buys me things, always thinking of me BUT introduces me as 'friend' rather than 'girlfriend'. This hurts me as we do every thing together that a BF/GF would do. I have told him how I feel. He simply says he is not ready to introduce me as 'girlfriend' yet, when we are alone he calls himself my BF.
Can you teasingly ask him?
"Oh so you're my BF but I'm not your GF? How does that work?
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
He may consider a girlfriend to be someone he shares some particular level physical intimacy with.
Okay, maybe it's just me, but this would really annoy me. I personally do not think he should call himself your boyfriend when you're alone but not introduce you as such. I would ask him to stop calling himself my boyfriend in private if he can't do it in person.
Although I do like WC's approach to bringing it up as well.
If you smile when no one else is around, you really mean it.
-Andy Rooney
It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit.--Noel Coward
Live your life and forget your age. --Norman Vincent Peale
Why isn't he "ready" ? If he loves you as he says he does he should want everyone to know that you're in a relationship with him. In my opinion it doesn't make sense for him to say he loves you but then not want to claim you as his girlfriend in public...but then alot of things men do make no sense to me...*smile* I guess it has only been 6 weeks, is this is first serious relationship?
I'd say Go with WC's suggestion if you want to ask it in an unassuming way, but you may have to just be straight forward and ask him "if you 'love' me why won't you claim me by letting everyone know I'm your girlfriend?"
Do keep in mind that 6 weeks really isn't long enough to know someone very well.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
Originally Posted by rcoreyus
I vote for these two views combined.
Keep in mind that 6 weeks is a very short time to know someone. Also (not to be negative) but guys tend to say a lot of things in the beginning that they feel they need to say just to get you to stick around.
If he's sweet and attentive and kind to you then just enjoy the moments and see where it goes.
Maybe he's not comfortable with calling you a girlfriend in public cause he's not used to the intimacy yet.
I have to agree with this. It always bugs me when a guy (or girl, for that matter) can say one thing behind closed doors, but totally change when they're around other people. It just seems inconsistent. But it could definitely be that he's just afraid to make it THAT official.
I would say to try WC's approach first and make a light little remark like that to see what he says. He might understand and change his act. If he still says he's not ready to call you his girlfriend, then take KY's advise and politely ask that he stops referring to himself as your boyfriend until he's ready to have it both ways.
I've got to be direct
If I'm off please correct
You're standing on my neck....
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