Happy endings ?

**Traveller** · 03-02-2010 03:18 AM

Does anyone here believe in them ?

I am in a relationship with an awesome guy right now. He is moving accross the country to be with me and we are starting our life together or as we say gonna give it a shot or we will regrett if we don't after all our history together. Which isn't bad.

Which is great. I am looking forward to it.

On the other side I have the case of an ex. who I haven't had contact with since 07 not by my choice... but he reads everything I write online. Why would one read what I write yet not have contact with me ?

So either way what happens with this guy I am with now I am with him and wont run back to my ex or what so. it works out it does. If it doesnt least we can say we tried. it doesnt so be it.

I'd just like to know what the ex deal is. And if anyone believes in happy endings ?

**hanni** · 03-02-2010 04:13 AM

i was actually thinking about this the other day - i'm with an amazing boyfriend right now and we plan on getting our own place soon etc. but theres a small part of me that thinks "am i just one of those people who thinks everythings amazing but from the outside its probably not"? i guess all you can do is work hard at a relationship and if you want it enough and you both put the work into it then hopefully it'll work out, and as you say, if it doesnt then at least you gave it your best shot and hopefully there wont be any regrets.

you mention your ex but its not really clear how you still feel about them - do you still have feelings or are you just curious?

i hope things continue well when your SO moves down to be with you

**Traveller** · 03-02-2010 04:22 AM

Honestly I think my ex. Is that kind of guy that you are always gonna love reguardless. of what happend and where things are now. you know how you are always suppose to have that "one" But I do think I am more curious than anything. I have to many questions with no answers - knowing he reads what I write etc.. Just makes it more of a what the ??

Also with the guy I am with now. everything we are doing is what I was doing with the ex. or suppose to be doing with him. I guess part of me is scared that we will end up the same or something.

**Joey** · 03-02-2010 04:40 AM

I really really hope that there is such a thing as a happy ending. The guy i am with at the moment, too me, is definitly the one who i would be completly and utterly happy with spending the rest of my life with him. He is the most amazing guy i have ever been with - and he just makes me feel so special and beautiful. Im just so in love with him, and he is with me.

Because of this, the thought of us NOT having a happy ending kills me inside! its just such a horrible thought.

**ocularone** · 03-02-2010 06:51 AM

I believe in happy endings, but that doesn't mean everyone gets one. I could die in a gutter tomorrow and that obviously wouldn't be my happy ending. However, there are other philosophical and spiritual ideals that make up the context of each persons "happy ending". In my case, even if i died in a gutter tomorrow i would still have my happy ending. It just comes AFTER that.

**KMonte85** · 03-02-2010 07:04 AM

I think happy endings are possible in everyone's life, so long as we don't stand in our own way.

It sounds like you have something great going on with this man who is moving across the country to be with you. Ignore whatever it is the ex is doing online (it doesn't matter), and focus on the fantastic time you're having with your man, in person, in living color.

**sarahlee20** · 03-02-2010 07:16 AM

I think happy endings are possiable...however they are few and far between.You have to really want it and both couples are willing to compromise and love etc. I know that from first hand,hubby and i are going through a hard phase right now.We've been dealing with him being a complusive gambler

However we are confindent and trying to work it out. We've been together awhile now. We got engaged young and we're still young. I'd say take your time and don't marry because he's the only person that's around you alot.Even if he seems awesome person and you two are live together. If it doesn't work out don't hesitate to get back out there in the world. Just giving you some advice. I don't know how old you are but..I am 22 and realizinig it's hard especially if your faced with more than you can handle. But GL Sarahlee20

**WildChild** · 03-02-2010 07:27 AM

How do you define "ending"?
There really are no endings. There is what was, what is and what will be. You can't change what was, don't know what will be, although you can work toward what you think you want. All you really have is NOW.

People grow and develop and change or fail to and no longer fit together, at least not happily. People die. Death is not an absolute ending but you are no longer interacting as you were. You both have to move on.

I don't look for a happy ending. I'm working on a happy Now, today, tomorrow, next week, next year, next decade. I can be happy everyday, maybe not with the same people in my life. We cross paths, some we travel along side for a long way, others just briefly. It doesn't end. One ending, is another beginning.

**newhere808** · 03-03-2010 01:03 PM

I believe in them to an extent. A happy ending is the end result of work to make it happen, a happy ending does not fall into anyones lap.

**echoskybound** · 03-10-2010 06:20 PM

I have a friend who's been through a lot of relationships, and a lot that crashed and burned. Last year though he found a girl he really adored, and I knew he meant it because I've seen him go through all of his relationships. They were perfect, but she was from Germany and had to leave. They saw the end coming and they made the best of it. It broke off with mutual tears, but I feel like he considers it a happy ending.

The endings to my relationships, on the other hand, have been terrible. I absolutely love the guy I'm with now, and it breaks my heart to think about any ending at all as of now, especially an unhappy one.