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Reply With Quoteok..so i just received an infraction for this msg..i realized for wat but how can i change it? and does any1 know if i can reduce the days for expiration?
Should i take a break?
so..new day,new issue...me and my bf have been fightin for 2 days now..nothin big just petty arguements..it started off coz he keeps sayin that im thin and that makes me feel like he dosent find me attractive anymore...but he syas that not true and its my insecurities..i admit i have serious trust issues and they take a huge toll on the relationship...today we met up for coffee and he seemed rly distant i asked him y and he said its coz we were fightin..i dont know how to feel abt that so i asked if he is been spendin time w any1 else that made him more angry and he said that i still think that the issue is w him,that he is cheatin and thats y hes so distant not undstandin that hes distant coz we wer fightin...then he said that my insecurities and accusations make him feel like {edit} and that he dusent blve that i love him coz if i did i wudnt treat him this way...i trully love him and dont want him to feel like coz of me..i need to undstand that these maybe my issues and i shud support him more...do u thnk i shud take a break from the relationship so if i stil feel the same way wen im not w him then i know that these are my issues and hes not causin them..but im scared that if i take a break he mite find some1 else he rly likes or just have a fling...feedback pls and also y did he come to c me for coffee if he felt that way coz i dint ask to meet him...do u think the break mite give him some space too???
Last edited by Fallen1; 03-04-2010 at 12:49 PM. Reason: Dodging language filter with characters
ok..so i just received an infraction for this msg..i realized for wat but how can i change it? and does any1 know if i can reduce the days for expiration?
Rema, the infraction is a warning only, it's to let you know for future reference, so you don't repeat it, that's all. It's important that we let people know or else we have to continue editing, and or, other people think they can do it which is double work for us.
Just don't repeat puting characters to replace a word you know you can't type and it's fine...
Don't stress over it.
As for your thread and past threads, put yourself in his shoes and imagine he is the one always accusing you, he is the one that is always fighting with you, he is the one that watches you like a hawk how would you feel?
It's a waste of energy, stress is a horrible thing to go through, and it has no purpose in reality because if someone does cheat, they will and nothing anyone can do about it...
Relax and enjoy your relationship and look in the mirror and tell yourself that you like yourself in every way.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Guy or girl, no one likes to feel like they are being scrutinized, like they are always screwing up, and like every step is a miss-step. Depending on how long the two of you have been together I would say that a break may do both of you some good, and in that time you really need to come to grips with what is making you so insecure about you two. Unless he has actually done something to cause you to question him so much (and maybe he has) then I can understand his annoyance.
Perhaps seeing a therapists to help you get to the root of it would help?
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