This thread is for men...Are you romantic??

**Goodgirl93** · 03-09-2010 01:42 PM

Okay so my mom,sister and I just got into this huge debate about men having a romantic side.My sister said she has noticed a pattern that a guy is romantic and affectionate until he gets compfortable around the woman,he feels he doesn't need to do special things or do much "impressing."

Sister's POV-Men should learn to be more romantic.
Mother's POV-Men have a hard time being romantic at times.
My POV-All men are different,some are romantic,some aren't.

Soooo my questions to all the men here is...Do you have a romantic side? When you are in a relationship does the romance last or do you really get compfortable enough to stop showing as much affection and romance toward your SO? Do men really have a hard time showing affection or being romantic?

Thanks for all y'alls responses.

**WildChild** · 03-09-2010 01:46 PM

Maybe you should define "romantic".

**Goodgirl93** · 03-09-2010 01:59 PM

Like even little things,occasional flowers,massages,ect.

**Hopeless Dork** · 03-09-2010 04:49 PM

My boyfriend has taught me what romance really is... and it isn't in the flowers, though he has got me those too

Some of the ways he makes me feel romanced:

He's a gentleman, he opens all doors, stands when I do, pulls out my chair, helps me with my coat, offers me his if I don't have one. He calls to check that I've gotten home safe when I am out late.

He cooks me home made dinners.

He writes me a note, almost every single day... either an email a text or on actual paper that tells me how he feels about me.

He notices my hair, my clothes, when they are different and tells me I look pretty even when I'm bloated wearing sweatpants and have my hair in a scrunchie.

He carries all the shopping bags, does all the heavy lifting... always offers to pay, but I don't let him half the time.

Whenever I open my eyes when we are making love I see his staring right back down at my face, occasionally they are on the 'action' of course lol...

He doesn't gawk at other women in front of me, he doesn't ogle the tv when there is scantily clad chicks on it.. if he has the remote he'll change it if he was just flipping through anyway, and if its on a show or movie we're watching he'll act disinterested etc. Even when we watch porn together, I almost never see him looking at the screen as much as he is paying attention to me.

He takes me for walks, literal sunset walks holding hands a few times a week (I really thought walks in the sunset were something ppl put in personal ads that didn't happen in real life lol... but WE REALLY DO THEM)

He holds me and cuddles me... He finds me in the house and kisses me first thing when he comes home from work.. he has his arm around me or is holding my hand at all times in public.

Even after a couple years together he will still come give me a kiss before going to shower or going out to do yard work etc.

He doesn't consider himself a romantic... but his actions speak otherwise

**Mes T** · 03-09-2010 06:08 PM

Awwww HD... that sounds wonderful.

My boyfriend does some of those things too... I gotta say, writing little notes is definitely one of my favorite.

Anyway to the topic, I think it's pointless to ever say "men are this" or "men are that"... By now, we all know, that there are alllllll sorts of people in this world.

**nubianqueen** · 03-09-2010 09:49 PM

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

He doesn't consider himself a romantic... but his actions speak otherwise

Now, if that's not romantic....I dont know what is!!!!

**Goodgirl93** · 03-09-2010 10:06 PM

Originally Posted by Mes_T

Anyway to the topic, I think it's pointless to ever say "men are this" or "men are that"... By now, we all know, that there are alllllll sorts of people in this world.

I know,I was just looking for mens(and womens) opinions on this.

**Joey** · 03-10-2010 01:22 AM

hmm...from previous expereinces (apart from my boyfriend now) my Exs have been the type of romantics that during the earlier part of the relationship were incredibly romantic, but as the relationship continued they became lazy. HA!

**Mes T** · 03-10-2010 01:25 AM

Originally Posted by Joey

hmm...from previous expereinces (apart from my boyfriend now) my Exs have been the type of romantics that during the earlier part of the relationship were incredibly romantic, but as the relationship continued they became lazy. HA!

Same. Blows!

**pretzel** · 03-10-2010 05:37 AM

Ok, here's the first guy's response,

First off, many of the things that Gigi, HD, Mes and Joey mentioned they find romantic are things that many of us do naturally. Little things are important and shouldn't be overlooked.

Some of the things I don't do anymore. Romance and things romantic go both ways. It's easier to do romantic things for someone when romantic things are done in return. I know from my own experience that it's hard to continue to be romantic and do things that are romantic for her when it becomes a one way street.

I'm actually a hopeless romantic, but when it's taken for granted, romance isn't important anymore.