Thread: Men are the sensitive ones.

If it's always your partner ending it, then it's time for the question: "Maybe it's me?"
What are the reasons they are giving you?

Well, if you've only been let go twice then that's about normal. Plenty of women out there that all want different things in their lives at different times. You'll find someone who is the right fit eventually.

Anon, I can sympathize with you. Just so you know, you are reacting in a completely normal way when a relationship ends without you wanting it to. It can feel like the carpet has been pulled right out from under your feet. You look at that person who ended it, and it kills you inside. You trace through your mind all the "what-ifs" and "should haves" throughout the relationship. Wondering what you could have done differently, how you could be different so they would look at you the same way. You also see them getting on with their lives. You see, the relationship had died already for her. It died, and she was essentially over it when she came to you to officially end things with you. It had already been decided to her..you are, unfortunately, just behind the curve. Does that make sense? So yea..you ARE going to mourn this relationship, you will seem pessimistic as you go through this battle inside yourself of wondering "what's wrong with me?". You just need to realize that sometimes it just isn't supposed to work out between some people. You could be amazing and she could be amazing..yet you could still be incompatible. Try not to focus on the fact that she seems her same bubbly happy self. Of course we all secretly wish deep inside ourselves that the other person would be hurting too because of the end of the relationship. Like i said though, she already went through all that and came to terms with it before she broke up with you. So yes she is going to seem better off. and it sucks, i know it does man. It's ok to be in pain and let it burn for a while but just don't forget to not let that pain carry on too long. It will keep you from getting back into your life and doing the things that make you happy. This sounds dumb and cliche but i promise there is someone out there for you. And when you meet them you will never understand how you could have thought there wasn't better out there when you were dating the X. You will have better, my friend. It's a crappy journey but just try and learn what you can from it while it's happening.

Time will make it a lot easier. Soon enough you'll find someone even better.

I totally know how you feel. I dated a girl for 5 YEARS and she just one day told me she had no feelings for me anymore. This news coming 2 weeks after i had emptied out my savings to purchase her an engagement ring and 3 weeks before i was being deployed. Not fun..not fun at all. However, it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me..even though at the time i was DYING inside.