Angry bf on alien guys...

**priyakr** · 03-23-2010 12:32 AM

Hello everyone.

As I have mentioned in my previous threads that I am in relation since 2 yrs. So facing few problems. So here is the next one.

My guy is very possessive for me and he can't see a guy around me(who is after me). And when he get to know about that person he simply fights with him which I don't like

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There is an another guy who is after me even after knowing that I got a bf. He is in my office and I have been convincing him to forget me but he is very persistant and I am tired of it. But if I tell about this to my guy he will fight with him too which I don't want because he hasn't done anything bad or sumthng which could hurt me and I want that guy just forget me easily without being hurt.

So what all can I do to hide this from my bf and to convince that guy to leave me without being hurt..?????

Regards
Priya

**Mes T** · 03-23-2010 12:42 AM

I don't blame your boyfriend, any guy would be upset if someone else made advances toward his girlfriend.

If someone is "after you" at work with your consent, you can report it to whoever's in charge as harassment. Him pursuing you when you clearly don't want it is NOT okay.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-23-2010 02:09 AM

Kind of agree with Mes 100%

**Mes T** · 03-23-2010 02:13 AM

OOPS made a really crucial typo there, I meant to say "*withOUT your consent...".

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-23-2010 02:14 AM

I saw that

lol's or else I wouldn't have agreed

**Beautiful Disaster** · 03-23-2010 05:30 AM

What do you mean he's "after you?"

It's not uncommon for people to develop workplace crushes, and if there is no policy against workplace dating then there's not a lot wrong with it. On the other hand, if he's making unwanted advances to you, making you feel uncomfortable, rubbing up against you, touching you, etc then that's a different story, that is sexual harassment.

Your boyfriend sounds to have jealousy issues. It's not uncommon for a bf or gf to become jealous if someone likes their mate, but frankly if I see a girl checking out my guy (and nothing more), I am flattered by it. If your guy is becoming violent and fighting with these guys as a way to "claim his territory", I see that as a bad sign in him. Violence is not the answer.

If the guy is simply interested in you, and not harassing you........then I'd just be very honest with him and say, "I'd like you to leave me alone, I have no interest in you, i have a boyfriend whom I love very much", but there is no need to go home and tell your boyfriend.

**priyakr** · 03-23-2010 11:09 AM

Hey dear,

Hey I want to tell u that, that guy who is in my office is not doing any such thing which would hurt me he is just showing his feelings towards me that too in a nice manner and I have asked him many times to forget me to leave me but he doesn't say anything on it and leaves that time and still keep showing his emotions towards em directly or indirectly

I am tired of that... don't know how to handle it????

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

What do you mean he's "after you?"

It's not uncommon for people to develop workplace crushes, and if there is no policy against workplace dating then there's not a lot wrong with it. On the other hand, if he's making unwanted advances to you, making you feel uncomfortable, rubbing up against you, touching you, etc then that's a different story, that is sexual harassment.

Your boyfriend sounds to have jealousy issues. It's not uncommon for a bf or gf to become jealous if someone likes their mate, but frankly if I see a girl checking out my guy (and nothing more), I am flattered by it. If your guy is becoming violent and fighting with these guys as a way to "claim his territory", I see that as a bad sign in him. Violence is not the answer.

If the guy is simply interested in you, and not harassing you........then I'd just be very honest with him and say, "I'd like you to leave me alone, I have no interest in you, i have a boyfriend whom I love very much", but there is no need to go home and tell your boyfriend.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 03-23-2010 11:58 AM

So he has a crush on you, you know it...but he's not really doing anything wrong or out of line so there's not a whole lot you can do about it except stand firm with him, don't do anything that would give him any false hope. But if you already know your boyfriend is jealous, there's just no good in telling him someone thinks you're pretty or has a crush on you.....unless of course you're trying to make him jealous which I don't think you are.

The work guy will eventually lose his crush on you if you just ignore him and be firm about how you feel.