Really need advice..real life jerry springer

**dancingdiva** · 03-29-2010 08:15 PM

Ok quite embarrssed I'm writing this. I dated a man for 10 years who had divorced his wife. His ex wife in turn dated one of his brothers and had a child. About five years later she then dated another brother and they had a child. I know..crazy. Well just recently my ex started dating his ex wife. I have to see him one more time and I really want to tell him what I think hes doing is disgusting and that he is adding to the confusion of the children. Friends tell me to stay out of it. I am hurt over this but will never try to be with this person again. I would just think his common sense has left him. He use to laugh about the situation his brothers put themselves in and always say those poor kids. Do I say anything or just leave it alone. I know the past year he has been depressed and family wise for him it is causing chaos. I just dont know how to react when I see him?

**caterpillar79** · 03-29-2010 08:16 PM

If you're no longer an item, it's no longer your business. I'd say stay out of it.

**Hopeless Dork** · 03-29-2010 11:44 PM

Got to agree with Caterpillar. If he made comments to you that he dissaproved of his brothers actions and said things like 'poor kids'... he's very aware that him becoming involved with that lady again is adding to the chaos. You wouldn't be telling him anything he doesn't already know... you'd just be letting him know you dissaprove.

And I'm pretty sure he'd know you dissaprove and did it anyway. Since you guys are no longer a couple he really doesn't need your approval to date who he wants and while you may think its a messed up situation, and he may know its a messed up situation... he's going to do what he wants to do.

I think you're wasting your energy worrying about it, honestly. If you have no intention to be back with him its just one of those things you have shrug and be happy you are no longer in the mix of that drama.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-30-2010 02:08 AM

Leave it alone.

All that has happened is he feels self worth of himself... His Brother's saw her charisma but not her attitude, bite, ... nor does your ex... He is competing to win over his brothers now... and there is no point getting involved.. He needs to see, and by going through what he is about to, he finally will.

CW

**Beautiful Disaster** · 03-30-2010 07:02 AM

Cruddy situation, but remember, he's your EX husband. And thank goodness for that.

Yep, like the others said, stay out of it. Talk to us, talk to your friends if you have to, but he will be expecting you to say something about it. Show him you've moved past that. By vocalizing it to him, you make yourself part of the issue. Don't.

**sourpuss** · 03-30-2010 08:20 AM

He's your ex for a reason. Stay out of it and count your lucky stars that you're no longer involved.

**WildChild** · 03-30-2010 08:52 AM

Some people delight in creating their own drama and disaster. Stay in the audience, no need to get on the stage.

**dancingdiva** · 03-30-2010 09:43 AM

Thank you for all the wonderful imput. I was just dumfounded when I found out. We had just broken up in Febuary. So he jumped backards really quick. I am happy to rid of him after this..it just made the breakup smoother. No more tears just plain disgust. Thank you again.