Thread: Here is my story!!!

19 years of age, chemistry, meshes well, yep I remember it well....

But you know, our sexual desires aren't always met. You say you meshed well but it may have been chemistry and the foreplay and things you would like as "partners" may never occur, because he may not like to do those things and never did and never will... You may be two different people in that field...

Yes, you are going to be a mum, Liam's Mum, congratulations by the way and yes, it is obviously important that you focus on parenting when Liam is born but judging from the way your protecting your stomach, and the fact that you call yourself a Mum to be, and that you have picked out a name, that tells me straight up that your already a parent and your ready for it.

What I think you are trying to gain is the "all togetherness"... Your having a baby, your with the baby's father and so your trying to work that into what you like including sexually, to make it complete for you.

He's young, your both 20, he will be with the boys every night, he wasn't ready for a child but it happened, he accepted it and he's with you.. But, he's still a child if you can understand what I mean.. So, the picket fence, the wedding ring, the happily ever after may not come for a few years or may never come at all...

Hopefully, you two can become one, in soul when the baby is born and grow and learn more about each other and commitment to each other, as well as to your child but if that isn't the case and you find your not compatible later? It's okay, you tried. But I would suggest that you two always be friends and remember that you both bought this beautiful little bundle of joy into the world together and made that decision when the question was there... A baby needs it's Mother and Father.

As for your rights? There is nothing at all wrong in my opinion with people trying to be happy with each other, and try to compromise for each other, it's a great learning thing and skill that you will need when raising Liam.... and it's what is important in a relationship.. Compromise..

How about sitting him down and saying, "ok", I have all these hormones happening, appreciate I've been a bit demanding or strong with my wants and desires, but I'm just wondering? What type of things turn you on, what boundries do you have, things you would never do, etc. It's important as a couple to talk.. Never know I might pole dance for you one day ... type of talk.. Calm, rational and getting to know each other sexually.

Bottom line is if there are things he hates to do you won't be able to change that.. You'll have to live with it if you wish this man to remain in your life, experiment yourself as well and love each other in all other ways.

CW