Thread: For those of you separated/divorced

Originally Posted by pretzel

I think you're therapist is wrong. Why would she be feeding your insecurities, which is what shes doing.

Answer yourself these questions,

Is he making me happy?

Am I making him happy?

Are we committed to making our relationship the best it can be?

Has he done anything or told me anything that would cause me not to trust him?

If you answer yes to the above, I think you're way ahead of the curve.

Live for today, plan for tomorrow.

Honestly Pretzel, those were kind of my thoughts when she asked me to talk to him more about it. I feel like he shares things with me, and I've learned the main issues that they had and I can tell that at least as of now, he is working very hard to not make the same mistakes twice. I'm also aware of those things to make sure I mention them if they become an issue. I don't want to know everything about their past. It would *totally* feed my insecurities. A note here and there is fine, but I don't feel like I need to sit down and have an hour discussion about it all... We've moving forward, not back.

She also told me I needed to ask if we were exclusive. I told her that I knew he wasn't seeing anyone else. I know most of his friends very well because we go to school. He is very honest with me and I know how busy he is. I also don't see him as the kind of guy who would be devious enough to try to keep up with two women (nothing against him, but he's still getting back into remembering what it's like to date).

I guess it just threw me for a loop. I mean, we're going on vacation in less than two months. He gave me his credit card to book his flight. We've talked a lot about this summer and even playfully past that. I am finally at a point where I am at peace with the fact that he is maybe going to be dealing with the divorce stuff realistically for maybe the rest of the year even. Then, for her to tell me I needed to dig up all of this information?? I don't see what benefit it would have?