hopeless romantic, says it all
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Has he ever "tried" to get you to have sex with him? And, curious as to why you haven't, your reasons...
At this stage, in his mind, he's doing nothing wrong... He has your heart he has her heart and he has her finances.
He could for sure, be feeling that 1) you wouldn't stay as your way younger than him and you'll leave him in a few years for someone your age, 2) he could have bonded with the children, whilst he doesn't want any of his own, he claims them as his and loves them. 3) He's bonded with her, been there for her through all her troubles and has a deep connection.
Missing you? He loves knowing that you love him... what man doesn't?
I am sure he has feelings for you, seeing as it seems that he hasn't slept with you but has slept next to you, holding you...
But, you know the story, they can't have it both ways...
You walked at one stage and he didn't get in touch with you, you did with him.
People do bond.. But, what worries me is that he said all he can have is a casual relationship... you knew what that mean't and didn't give it/ in..
Maybe, because you hope he will leave and it's your draw card.
But, having written on another thread where I can see a bond... Here, I see someone who has no intentions of leaving, but enjoys what he has and does have feelings for you, but won't be leaving anytime soon.
And, as I wrote on that thread, " if you love someone let them go, if they come back they're yours if they don't they never were".
You have nothing to lose by leaving. If he really loves you, and not her, and it's not the finances that is making him stay, selfish, then he will leave her, and come to you.
You have more to lose by staying because he has no reason to choose.
He's not married, but he entered that relationship the same time as he met you.
He has told you after a vacation that it's over... which means he bonded very close with her... He is also safer in his eyes with her, she's grounded, has children is his age...
You as I said, in his eyes, may walk 1 year down the track, 5 years down the track, due to your age and the way in which you will change as you get older...
She, is settled. Content with her life.. And safe.
You owe it to yourself, to have more than you have got and I'm pleased that you haven't slept with him.
What does your mind say?
Your only listening to your heart.