Thread: WHY does he do this?????

I think you needed that talk bd, I think he needed to hear it, I think you needed to say it and I think you needed to hear what he had to say too.

I am very very very happy for you, because this way or that way the water is no longer merky, you've said clearly and plainly how you feel and I think you said it fairly, not threatning and ... I'm pretty doggone impressed with your ability to let yourself be vulnerable and speak from your heart.

Hearing what you said about your father, gave me so much more of understanding of your stance on independence. I can see now why you feel the way you do about having your own place, and asserting you are taking care of yourself.

Now the ball is in his court to take your words to heart, to give you the benefit of the doubt when he has a misunderstanding, to tell you what he feels when he feels it and not just kick dirt and wait for you to prod it out of him, to be affectionate with you without the anticipation of sex each and everytime and to show interest in the things that matter to you.

And if he doesn't you don't have to beat yourself up trying to figure out why he doesn't get it, but see that he does get it, he just can't do it.

But I hope for the both of you that he does 'get it' and that you guys are stronger and happier for this talk.