Thread: Comfort in a relationship..

oh, yeah.. this is definitely normal for a long term relationship. The "newness" , or as you call it the "spark" is gone.

A lot of people mistake this feeling as something bad, thinking the relationship is in trouble because the infatuation is no longer there. But that's not it at all, at least not to me and my long term relationship (8 yrs).

Instead of the superficial feelings of lust and infatuation, what the "comfort" really is is a deeper, more emotional connection... love, if you will.

Just be careful not to allow yourself to get to comfortable in the comfort zone you find your relationship in. Although it is great to be past that point of newness with each other, you don't want the relationship feeling too stale, or routine. Do some things out of the ordinary once in a while, travel together to somewhere you've both never been and can explore, do thoughtful things for each other, touch each other in new ways. You'll soon learn that this comfort you feel will allow yourself to open up even more in your relationship... so instead of having to worry about being "perfect," you can let your guard down and increase the intimate connection. It is great, if you let it be