A dream of cheating

**GlassDaemon** · 05-11-2010 08:16 AM

I'm going to put this here because I think it relates well enough to my relationship, if not... sorry lol

This made me really nervous, last night I had a dream that I cheated on my partner, with not just one, but two people, I even knew one of the people, though oddly they both looked like my partner. Anyway, I know dreams are really strange and loopy so first thing I did this morning was look up a few dream analysis sites. I have two different definitions from two different sites:

1. To dream that you are cheating on your spouse, mate, or significant other, suggests feelings of self-guilt and self-betrayal. You may have compromised� your beliefs or integrity and/or wasting your energy and time on fruitless endeavors.�� Alternatively, it� reflects the intensity of your sexual passion and exploring areas of your sexuality. It is a reaffirmation of your commitment.

2. To dream that you are cheating on your spouse, mate, fiancé, or significant other, indicates that you have let yourself down in some way. You may have sacrificed your morals and ethics and received little or no benefits in return. It may also represent your increasing desires or fantasies regarding sex. Often, those who are about to enter into matrimony may dream about sensual encounters with other people. This may symbolize the anticipation or apprehension regarding this relationship.

Well the part that scares me really is the beginning that suggests I compromised myself. It irks me on a whole new level of irkedness. D: The problem is I really don't think I have, or at least I can't come up with anything. I'm really just looking for some people to talk with me, help me come up with any ideas that could explain this.

On a side note, our sex life can get rather dull, not that we don't do it, just that it's not always amazingly creative. In other threads I've stated I'm a very kinky person I like toys and bondage, and the whole nine works, but I live with my parents and he lives with his brother's that complain when I make the slightest noise, so we are limited. This weekend we did fool around with a few different positions.

Sadly the birth control I'm on has eaten away the vast majority of my sexual desires. Where I used to masturbated 3-5 times a day, when I got on birth control the only time I really have sex/masturbation is with him(I really only see him on the weekends, sometimes into Monday-Tuesday, once or twice a day). I never discourage him from fooling around with me cause he never has a problem getting me in the mood, it just doesn't come about all by it's naughty self like it used too. This weekend we had a rare occurrence where I wanted it really bad and I was on him like a dog humping his leg (poor guy was so tired. XD)

**sourpuss** · 05-11-2010 08:28 AM

I don't understand what you are asking us? Dreams are just dreams. 9 times out of 10 they don't mean anything. What is it that you're worried about?

**GlassDaemon** · 05-11-2010 08:53 AM

Well, I personally don't think they're "just dreams" lol, I do look up dreams and try to interpret them. I think it's our subconscious trying to explain/show us something. I'm worried about the beginning of what I've found, I'm looking for some other view points, opinions, options as to what other people think it could mean or how it interacts with my relationship. I'm just looking for some help. :\

**sourpuss** · 05-11-2010 09:43 AM

Well, the more you dig and look for it to mean something negative about the relationship, eventually you'll find it. Sounds like self sabotage to me. Are you looking for a way out of this relationship maybe? Are you happy?

**Beautiful Disaster** · 05-11-2010 10:30 AM

If it's a reflection of your relationship, then that's bad news for me because I've never been in a relationship that I didn't have dreams like that. hehe.

Having dirty "thoughts" regarding anyone or anything (fantasy) could result in some guilt for you on a subconscious level even though you haven't done anything wrong.

I know what you mean about BC. Sort of like, what's the point in going through ALL it has you go through, when you're going to end up rarely even wanting sex anyways. Nonetheless, it takes both people to spice things up. Things will naturally get a little less exciting as the relationship goes on. You have to work on it, which I know is hard to do when your bc has taken away your drive. However, if you're with a guy that's really passive and quiet in the bedroom, then I TOTALLY understand what you mean. I'm currently going through that same thing myself.

There'll come a point where we'll either "meet in the middle" or we'll peace and part ways due to incompatibility. Have you thought about what you WANT to change in the bedroom?

Dreams are dreams. They can freak us out sometimes, yeah, sometimes it feels weird when you wake up and realize what was going through your subconscious. Ick, *swat swat* get out of there creepy thoughts!! hehe.

**Hopeless Dork** · 05-11-2010 11:35 AM

The thing about interpretation is that is all interpretory

I mean you can read whatever into it that you want to... you can find a way to view it that suits your situation, that doesn't suit it and try to find a way to make it fit.

Those things are just vague enough to see yourself in the wording in some form or another.

**stressed** · 05-11-2010 11:39 PM

You shouldn't worry about your dream. You had no control over it and if you don't think about cheating on your SO while awake, then just let it be.

Still, if you want to find an interpretation, then maybe you'd like to do the things you did in the dream with your SO (or at least some of them), or it's just a fantasy of yours you never want to fulfill.

**rcoreyus** · 05-12-2010 02:10 AM

You have no control over your dreams. That aside though, it sounds like you are wishing for a bit more in your sex life. You should encourage your SO (sounds like you have been), to be more...creative in bed. Then you need to decide for yourself how important it is. It sounds like he wants something different from your sex life - but maybe you are still compatible. In that case I think dreams, and fantasies are fine.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 05-12-2010 02:52 AM

The fact that you see "him" his face, in your dreams and you see two and then he is in your life for real,

The fact that you had a high sex drive, but since going on the pill that has dwindled, and the fact that you don't discourage him sexually, as he's all for it, and wants to,

And, then the fact that you can't see anything really wrong with the relationship, but you do see something wrong with your "now sex drive", tends to make me think that the dream books your looking at are based on "what's missing", basically and they can't be specific naturally.

What your missing is your sex drive, the "tripple" amount that your no longer having and so you see him, x 3, 1 in real life and 2 of him in your dream.

Your dream is about your sex drive.

Go back to your Doctor and tell him about your non-sexual side due to the pill, it may be too strong, or you may need to look at an alternative method..

CW

**eleni** · 05-12-2010 02:25 PM

agreeing with CW.

i've had a couple of dreams about cheating on my boyfriend
i would never do that so i just assume its my subconcious letting off steam

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