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    Unhappy Is it really time to end our bestfriend relationship? :/

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    okay, i really need help im only 15, yes highschool it really stresses you out alot :/



    ive been friends with a guy since this year and last year. But this year we started talking alot more, since the beggining of the school year ive liked him but wasnt shure of my feelings cause i dont fall quickly for anybody.(last crush was in 4th grade) Okay, halfway into the school year me and him got very close during christmas break, i know right when u dont see nobody you get close right? okay we were iming on im and he asked if he could text me cause he really likes talking to me, so we text right? wow it lasted for 6 hours nonstop, then everyday we started texting, school came and were were like bestfriendss for shure ..then it all changed when he started going out with a mutual friend of mine, okay i was heartbroken for a month straight but still managed to fake a smile, like i was happy for him, if hes happy im happy, then, it changed, ive been helping him out with his reationship since they even strted going out, ive been there for him, cryed with him, helped him out when he was falling down, even in the worse cases, her, she has NEVER helped him once..so now its the last few weeks of school and im heartbroken and feels like a knife is stabbing me, it started on monday, he completely ignored me, but first period he tried to talk to me but i was talking to a friend of mine across the room, but he didnt try much to get my attention, so during the day i would say "hi" or "hey" and no respond from him, i even tried fixing our friendship, yesterday i texted him saying "....hey..(his name)... and that would lead into a convo, okay 2 hours later he frkn finally texted back saying "um talking to gf right now so i dont want to text cuz im having so much fun. luv her to death! i never want 2 break up with her ever!." so after i read it i started crying, because nt only did he chose her over me (which i dont care) but he didnt even give a **** that me and him werent talking monday and tues,wends, thurs and probally tommorow (friday) and trust me its alot,we used to like talk 24/7 in school. so now, i dont know what to do, (wends) it looked like he dosent care that were nt talking hes jst always with her and having fun and stuff.he still looks at me though and looks away sad, when im talking and laughing with other people but .it kills me so much cause i helped him through so much **** and he repays me back by ignoring the outta me...we have so much in common, we used to talk laugh on the phone for hours nonstop, request bands for each other, and laugh...but now he dosnet call, text, nothing...im so used to my phone vibrating all the time casue it always used to be him...now the weekend is comming and i dont think il be able to answer his call(if he even calls) and i should include this, every weekend on friday we always stayed up like till 7pm till 6am in the morning , every weekend we would play a competition and see who could stay up the longest and laugh if one of us fell asleep...all those memories now gone, but i cant forget them, and i dont think if he will to, then, i dont even think i want to talk to him on the last day of school..so i think im jst going to wait til next year and see if he even talks to me...also when him and his gf break up should i even help him? after all he did to me? or should i say "no thats what you get" and hang up? ugh i dont know what to do...and also during the summer im not going to answer his calls, texts or IMS at all..so um what do you think i should doo? :'( i am crying every night cause i miss him..eve right now im crying as im typing...........

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    Okay here's the thing.

    - You two got very close to the point of non-stop calls and texts.

    - You started to fall for him. Understandable.

    - He got a girlfriend. This means that either his feelings for you were always platonic, OR maybe yes he had feelings for you but this other girl came along and he was more interested in dating her than you.

    - A guy cannot safely have a girlfriend AND a female friend who a) has a crush on him and b) thinks about him/ calls him/ texts him obsessively. It just doesn't work.

    My thought is that he's trying to pull away from you for the sake of his girlfriend. His relationship with you probably made him, her, or both of them uncomfortable, and he's just trying to do the honorable thing.

    I think you need to respect that this guy is trying to have a good and honest relationship with his girlfriend.

    I think you need to give him space and find other friends to hang out with.

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