Quote Originally Posted by Kaystrwbry42 View Post

Any ideas for how to talk to him about drinking?

First ask yourself a few questions.. Does he treat you diffrently when he is drunk? Is he mean to you or aggressive?
If he does than you should really reconsider the move. This can be an early sign of bad things to come.

Did he drink this way before you moved in with him? Did you already know he was a heavy drinker?
If you did and you decided to move in with him anyway, then you probably should have had a talk with him before you moved in. It will be harder now to explain to him that you don't like it. Because he would have assumed you were ok with it. That it didn't bother you.

And does he only drink partys and clubs with friends, or does he drink all the time? Like at home and during the day.
If he drinks all the time then he may have some problems that you two need to discuss. And he may need your help.

The thing is that it is perfectly normal for a young man to go party with his friends once in a while. He needs that time or he will start to pull away from you. If you want him to slow it down a little just say so. Tell him that things will always have to change if you make the BIG step of moving in together and both parties must make sacrafices. Tell him it's ok to get sloppy once in a while but you are wiorried he may be taking it to far. He should understand.

Try this. Both you you decide on three nights a week. One for you two to hang with your friends and another two for you and your man. And stick to it. Example: Fridays are your date night. Always spend fri night just the two of you go out. Then saturday let him hang with his friends and you go hang with yours. And wendsday is a night for you and your man to hang at home together and watch a movie or prepare a good dinner together.

That way you both have your free time and time together. A good balance is important.

Hope this helped