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    I just wanted to post to say thank you for the advice I was given when I split from my ex. Im not saying I am over him far from that, but with your advice and support from friends family and loved one's im getting there.
    Im 21 and have my whole future to look forward too, a career, life to experience people to meet and hopefully become wise in matters of the world like many of the ladies on here.
    I've come to the conclusion that what will be will be, if we are meant to be together we will if not there someone fantastic out there for me, I can walk away from this relationship with no bad memories and say that he was a true gentleman and know there are men like that out there, but for the moment the time is mine.


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    Your a smart girl. You will move on and be happy. Break up's suck but we survive because were strong. Good luck and good for you.
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    Congrats for realizing that! I agree and someday down the road maybe you'll end up together or you'll realize why it didn't work when you meet someone else fabulous
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    Quote Originally Posted by snuffie View Post
    I just wanted to post to say thank you for the advice I was given when I split from my ex. Im not saying I am over him far from that, but with your advice and support from friends family and loved one's im getting there.
    Im 21 and have my whole future to look forward too, a career, life to experience people to meet and hopefully become wise in matters of the world like many of the ladies on here.
    I've come to the conclusion that what will be will be, if we are meant to be together we will if not there someone fantastic out there for me, I can walk away from this relationship with no bad memories and say that he was a true gentleman and know there are men like that out there, but for the moment the time is mine.


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    That's lovely. You also have the same name as my fabulous sister - so I know you'll be fine!!

    We're all here to help one another out. I'm glad that advice was helpful!

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    I've just got one thing eating away at me now and has been for a couple of days, I thought we were happy and he said even when we split he loved me and was crazy about me, but I want to know if I ever did anything to annoy or upset him and make him unhappy. I feel I need to know to help me get closure and so that I can address this in the future. Should I ask him, is it ok to ask?

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    Quote Originally Posted by snuffie View Post
    I've just got one thing eating away at me now and has been for a couple of days, I thought we were happy and he said even when we split he loved me and was crazy about me, but I want to know if I ever did anything to annoy or upset him and make him unhappy. I feel I need to know to help me get closure and so that I can address this in the future. Should I ask him, is it ok to ask?
    I'm not sure. What would happen if your answers only left you more confused?

    Sorry I haven't read the underlying story behind this, but to me it seems you're comfortable knowing that the relationship didn't work our. To me it's just better to walk away saying I did the best I could.
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    I don't know how it would leave me more confused tbh, if he said yes and gave me an example and it was down to me it would be something I can work on, if not then I think I would be able to walk away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by snuffie View Post
    I don't know how it would leave me more confused tbh, if he said yes and gave me an example and it was down to me it would be something I can work on, if not then I think I would be able to walk away.
    Fair enough.
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    Hun, you said you had difficulty coping with him being in the Military and that you showed that.

    I would imagine that as he will be in the Military for some time, he doesn't/ didn't want to get hurt any more than he is going to now, as he fell in love.

    I believe that that may be his reason....

    And, that for you, there is nothing wrong with not being cut out to sit and wait, and become emotional, if you can't do it, you can't do it...

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