In a difficult position...what should I do?

**usedandconfused** · 05-23-2010 06:04 PM

Hey

so still pretty cut up about the end of my relationship but have a new dilemma....

my ex who i am still on good terms with has been messing about a girl for nearly the last year...he got with her a few months after we split...shes 7 years younger than me and i was pretty cut up at the time but now have no issues with them.

the thing is he's away on hols at the moment and mailed me to say he'd met a girl and had a bit of a fling with her...i know he's still with this other girl and she's v keen on him.

Should i tell her that he's playing away??

don't want my previous involovement to cloud judgement but feel I would like to know if it was me....obv this would ruin my relationship with my ex but am willing to sacrifice this if neccessary.

**LanaBear** · 05-23-2010 06:17 PM

Are you friends with the girl?

Personally, I feel that you just need to leave it. If you are not friends with the girl, you could very easily be seen as just a bitter ex trying to break up his new relationship.

Try to move on past him. If that means you cannot be friends with him, then you need to tell him that. If you do not agree with how he is handling a new relationship and feel that it is in your best interest to not even be a part of it, then tell him that. He will eventually crash and burn in this relationship and I think you are better off watching from the sidelines rather than becoming an active player.

**Joey** · 05-24-2010 04:50 AM

I personally feel you need to leave this well alone.

You say your still cut up about the ending of your realtionship with your ex - so i dont think that you being involved in any goings on with your ex at the moment is going to help you with the recovery process in the slightest - especially if its over his new love interests or flings.

You need to think about you and take time out for you during this time.

**usedandconfused** · 05-24-2010 05:31 AM

different ex actually! i'm not bothered about the end of my relationship with this guy we're just friendly these days.

thanks for the advice, am going to leave well alone, but i do feel really bad for this girl he's currently messing about, am sure she'll find out anyway but just feel bad for her cos shes young and going to be really hurt.