I'm so lost...
I'm 31 years old and every guy I've dated has dumped me or cheated on me. I can only think of one guy I broke up with. Everyone tells me I'm beautiful, educated, fit, successful and kind, but no one ever wants to stay with me. I know I get really clingy, but I can't stop myself. What's wrong with me? As I get older, I put out very easily to guys I find attractive, knowing that this sabotages any chance for further development. I just can't help being a . I often feel worthless and throw myself at guys. My most recent guy was a 28 year old virgin and I seduced him into having sex with me on the second date, after fooling around a lot on the first date, and immediately after, started clinging to him and he immediately ended things with me too. All in the course of a week.
Well it's very good that you've analyzed the problem: you're inappropriately clingy and tend to always be on the hunt for guys, yes? I've had a similar problem at one point or another, and my current best friend is like this at the moment.
The best medicine, that I'VE found, for this issue, is to stop dating for a while. I'd say... a good YEAR. Really build your life the way you want it: the friends you want, the job you want, and the image of yourself that you want to present to the world.
Read articles, books, and talk to people, about what a healthy relationship is and how to have it.
Sort out some priorities.
I really hope you go for it, because I've told my best friend these things, and they went in one ear and out the other. Consequently all she can think about, every day, is where to get her next boyfriend. Every time she does find a guy, a nice one at that, she throws herself at him and starts expecting some heavy duty commitment right from the beginning. Needless to say, she's been dumped a good 10 or so times these past few months.
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