My boyfriend is addicted to threesomes PLEASE HELP

**Rock and Roll Queen** · 06-01-2010 02:41 PM

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. I'm from Canada, but 6 months ago I came to Greece for work. Met him and gave up my life back home to be with him. The first week of our relationship he cheated on me with four girls at the same time. He told me about it two days later. Said he didn't do anything wrong because it's not like he lied to me... He did it with two friends he's known for over ten years and two strippers. I told him Id stay with him as long as he never talked to the strippers again. One night I was working bar at a club and he brought both the strippers with him to the club, made me watch them grind on him and kiss him. I couldn't do anything cause I was at work. He then asked me to bring them home with us. I said no. We talked about three somes and I told him I dont trust him yet. We havent been together long enough and I need some time. So much for that. He had this girl who has been his friend for 15 years. He wanted us to have a threesome with her. I told him as long as he doesnt have actual sex with her Im okay. So much for that.... him and her ended up doing it all night together. I kept trying to get him to have sex with me but he would push me away and continue on with her.
What do I do? Ive never felt so ugly, so useless. Why does he want this?
I really need help, thank you for listening.

**sourpuss** · 06-01-2010 03:20 PM

Sounds like you should move back to Canada and get on with your life. This isn't a good fit.

**Fallen1** · 06-01-2010 03:39 PM

Originally Posted by sourpuss

Sounds like you should move back to Canada and get on with your life.

Couldn't agree more.

**bringhomethepassion** · 06-01-2010 04:07 PM

What about this isn't clear to you that he isn't going to change?

**kygirl** · 06-02-2010 12:38 PM

I have to agree with everyone...you said you moved for work so if you're happy in Greece, then stay but he does not act like he respects you at all and he is getting away with it because you don't stand up for yourself.

You deserve someone who will listen to your thoughts and concerns and RESPECT you.... He's openly disregarding what you've asked him not to do multiple times...

Find someone else or heck, stay single, but either way, I'd kick this guy to the curb and FAST!

**Joey** · 06-03-2010 01:32 PM

you say that you dont trust him 'yet'. how could you possibly trust him ever? He clearly doesnt respect you or your feelings, considering that 1, he cheated on you with 4 other women, and 2, when you said that you would take him back if he didnt see the strippers again, low and behold he brings them to your workplace. What kind of man who loves, respects and wants to be with you would do that?

To me, it sounds like hes using the whole 'lets have a threesome' as a lame excuse for no other reason then to be able to sleep around with other women other then you - which was proven when you agreed to a threesome, and he had sex with the other women and not you.

Throw him to the dogs. He sounds like a nasty piece of work.

**Hopeless Dork** · 06-03-2010 03:07 PM

Hes making you feel bad because he's treating you bad. If you don't want to feel bad, you are going to need to dump this guy, seriously. He doesn't care about your feelings, he doesn't respect you, and probably gets off on hurting or humiliating you. Unless thats fun for you , move on.... to many guys that would treat you right to put up with that.