Thread: 9yrs best friends & he still won't marry me!

Why in the heck would you stay with a man that long that won't marry you. I wouldn't be with a man more that 2 years that wouldn't marry me. He has gotten use to having his cake and eating it too. If you really want him to marry you. MOVE OUT. Only move back in if he marries you!!!!!!!

Originally Posted by Lulumoon

He has told me why so many times but i just don't get it he doesnt really give me an answer. I am a perfect wife so far even though we aren't married we have lived together for 9years. We are the best of friends and can't live without eachother so why why? I keep have always thought that it was me but am so confused. I always cook and bake for him, clean for him woo him when he needs it or whenever he desires me he can have me. I will always do him sexual favors. I stay out of his way i am very sweet to him. I don't cheat on him or flirt with other guys or ever disrespect him. I even cook for his friends i am a very good hostess.
I dress nicely and workout a lot. His friends wanted me even wanted to marry me but why doesn't he want to marry me? i don't get it is theres something that i am doing wrong that i don't see?

Why wold you leave a man that you love? Marriage is a peice of paper. If you are happy in the relationship, what does it matter? I have been with my boyfreind for three years. We have a daughter and are planning for a boy. We live as husband and wife. I think that men just see marriage as a death sentence. If you are happy with the relationship, besides the marriage part, don't push him. I have heard of people having the best relationship for years, as soon as they get married, its over?? Why is that? It has to be the feeling of HAVING to be with someone. Not wanting to be with them. I never want my husband to feel like he has to be with me. Would you? If your relationship stands the test of time, you will get married someday. If it doesn't you will be better off not getting married. Just don't push him too much. Obviously he loves you. 9 years is a long time. I would just say appreciate what you do have and stop focusing on what isn't going to happen right now. You wouldn't want him to marry you without wanting it whole heartedly?? Its a scary thing to promise someone the rest of your life.

Have you made it clear to him that you
want to be married?

If not, he may think that if he asks you
he'll rock the boat...so he doesn't.

Make it clear and see what happens.

Originally Posted by Lulumoon

He has told me why so many times but i just don't get it he doesnt really give me an answer. I am a perfect wife so far even though we aren't married we have lived together for 9years. We are the best of friends and can't live without eachother so why why? I keep have always thought that it was me but am so confused. I always cook and bake for him, clean for him woo him when he needs it or whenever he desires me he can have me. I will always do him sexual favors. I stay out of his way i am very sweet to him. I don't cheat on him or flirt with other guys or ever disrespect him. I even cook for his friends i am a very good hostess.
I dress nicely and workout a lot. His friends wanted me even wanted to marry me but why doesn't he want to marry me? i don't get it is theres something that i am doing wrong that i don't see?

well......probably hes scared of marriage.... well i feel ur pain. if ur not happy with tis, just move out. forme, i want marriage. and he doesnt want. so we r both in the same shoes... HOPE U WILL FIND A SOLUTION SOON BE HAPPY!

do you want to be married, or do you want to have a marriage?

2 very different things.