Thread: I can never stay happy long at a job !

Hang in there girl. Don't let them mess with you. Do you like your job other than the staff? If so, get a little time and experience under your belt there and move on. I have been in many jobs that I felt respected and not felt like the women were being nasty to me but they were smaller offices etc with fewer women. You will find the right job. You could go to your supervisor or boss but I've seen that backfire, and you just sound like a whiner. I have found that you are your best advocate. One trick that has worked for me is to generically (never name names) make an angry statement, (while throwing a pen or something at a wall or desk for effect) to another employee loud enough for the nasty staff to hear it like, "I am so fed up with employees nasty attitudes, there is no place in a job for women being y, if you are having a bad day go home we don't need this here." What this does is not place blame anywhere specific and then there is no confrontation and lets them know you may be a force they don't want to face for fear of being embarrassed.

I have held a few job positions in my lifetime, I am not bad on the eyes even now at 49. My previous post talked a lot about how I dreaded to return to work after a lengthly absence due to surgery. My first days back were full of mixed signals from co-workers (all female). I think your bf's statement that they are jealous may have a lot of truth but it doesn't help you when you are physically sick thinking about returning to work each morning, liking the job and having issues with staff can turn a great job into a headache. Most women, for some reason enjoy being petty especially in groups, all it takes is one of them to criticize another and they get in a feeding frenzy. What is sad is that every one of them usually know better. I wish I knew why they act the way they do. And it doesn't seem to matter how old they are. I am good at what I do considering the crappy training I received at the newest office position, at least the higher ups think so (also female) and I scored the highest on the civil service exam. So why do I get all these hatred signals from female staff. Bingo!! They are jealous. I am, as you said, nice to everyone, never sarcastic, seldom go on breaks or spend hours visiting like some do, yet myself and one other staff (also a good looking woman) seem to have issues with the other staff who are in the dreaded click.

As sad as it is to say, I guess these office settings do need more men in them to even out the hormone issues. And if you aren't the type to get into the office/work gossip groups forget it, you end up part of the gossip. Strange but the one woman, now retired, who seemed to get the most respect, the smallest work load and the least sh__ was a woman in our office who was a bit brassy, maybe considered a bit y but demanded respect and yet was always nice to me, no one messed with her. Somewhere in her years in our office she must have made it clear not to screw with her. I wish I knew her secret. Try my suggestion from the first paragraph. I am due to do it again at work I'm afraid.

Good luck.