Thread: Boyfriend Troubles

Well i'll start off by saying, I'm 25, I have a 5 yr old son and moved in with my boyfriend over a year ago...Well everything has been going pretty good i'd say, we use to be so in love, he made me feel great.. Well recently we have been arguing alot, i'd mostly say it happens when he drinks, but he is saying it's all my fault as to why we fight...he told me not long after we first met that he was Bipolar , so i figured, he seems fine to me, wasn't acting crazy or anything up until he got comfortable around me and started drinking. Well a few nights ago we got into a really bad fight, um there was some hitting, from him and myself, ( self defense) i am a strong women and i don't take from anyone lol..we fought over him not having sex with me much anymore and that i always get him off when he wants it but when i want it i dont get it, so i said " i dont want to have sex with you when u have been drinking", well he promised he would only have 2, then we could have sex..which the beer turned into 3, into 4, etc..Well he got in my face, saying im crazy and a and much more words that i rather not say lol..and just over all putting me down, .Anyways, he um left bruises on me, elbowed my nose, then proceeded to tell me that i did that to myself? um now how is that possible? , and we fought while he was pretty much hammered...its scary, he has NEVER ever raised a hand to me, honestly im scared now...while all of this was happening my son was sleeping so he didn't see or hear anything, but i don't think i can handle this, but i am kind of scared to leave...i know i should, but i feel like maybe he will change or something, i love him i really do, but his drinking is ruining this, and i feel him being bipolar and not taking meds is not helping either..what should i do? i have talked to friends and family and they say i should leave...im scared...i love him, my son adores him...am i just being crazy? and i have talked to him about not drinking, or taking his meds, but he thinks he is perfectly normal...What should i do???

thanks...

I'm basically just going to echo what everyone else said. Get out... He has to change on his own and that is not the kind of environment you want your son to be in... Children are very perceptive about those sorts of things and God forbid he were to ever drink and harm your son whether intentionally or not... How would you feel if it was your son who got elbowed in the nose? I think you know this isn't a good place for yourself OR your son, but regardless, make the right decision for him. He can't leave on his own and you don't want him exposed to that type of behavior. It's just unacceptable.