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    Question How much do women really care about mans hair styles?

    Long story short I have long hair it’s not rock star long or sitting on my shoulders but it’s long the back is to my neck which (I like I think I look better in long hair). My girlfriend says she likes men with sort hair almost military style and that simply is not going to happen. I’ve surged off her comments and criticisms for awhile jokingly by saying things like. (Since I don’t have love handles you need something to grab on to) but it’s getting worse.

    Recently we had a big fight I don’t know if she’s PMSing or what but she started throwing insults at me saying nobody finds long hair on guys attractive anymore and told me that if I didn’t cut my hair I was going to wake up bald to which I replied “try it and you’d be waking up bald the next day” and she comes back and says "If I did that I wouldn’t be waking up at all." One thing led to another and I literally had to force clippers from her hand and she accidently groined me……. She apologized after but that didn’t help I’m actually afraid if we did live together I would wake up bald.

    Honestly do most women really care about their mans hair style this much? I really don’t see why it’s such a big issue I’m smart, fit, IMO pretty good looking, I’m above average in the pants department, I eat healthy, I workout how bad could it be that I have long hair? Especially since she met me with longer hair I don't get the problem I haven’t had short hair since high school. However with that said it’s not like I’m out of her league she’s attractive, health and fit as well so is she over reacting or am I just being a about it?

    Sorry first post seems more like a vent post.
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    I think everyone has preferences, but I don't think a persons preference should take anything away from who that person actually is (does that make sense, lol). If it's to the point where it's bothering one person in the relationship enough that they feel the need to verbally (or physically) jab the other person, well, IMO, it's kind of shallow and I probably wouldn't waste my time any longer in the relationship. There are plenty of other women out there who would like you, long hair and all.

    Personally, I prefer a shaved head, not Mr Clean style, but #1 or #2 on the clippers. But, my hubby did go through a period where his hair was all one length and to his shoulders, I could have cared less, I didn't and don't love him for his hair, I love him for the person he is.
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    I personally prefer very very short/military style/ shaved/ bald. But women vary on what they like just as much as men do. Its all personal preference I know some women go crazy for guys with long hair. Just like how some men love women with curls, some have to have a girl with long hair, for some its redheads, etc.

    But I don't know, I don't think its fair to be asked to change something about yourself that you've been since you've met. It would be different if you changed it after ... of course its still yoru body and you've every right to change it... but I could see her having more of a leg to stand on as far as telling you she is more attracted to short hair and you actually had short hair to begin with.

    It would be like you if she was brunette and you demanding now, months, years later after falling in love that she become a blonde because you are only attracted to blondes... sort of unfair and hurtful. Now if she was blonde before, and went brunette and you said honey i was more attracted to the hair I met you in... while it would be her decision to keep it... your point would carry more weight as far as it being what attracts you.

    But on the other hand..... do you love her? Do you love her finding you sexy and attractive? If she's your main squeeze... you'd think you want to be attractive to her if you could.

    One time my bf joked about doing something to his facial hair and me saying he'd get way less action out of me... I was kidding of course. Months later he was saying he almost did the thing he had mentioned before but remembered what i said and realized it would be so counter productive to make himself LESS attractive to me lol. I told him I'd love him either way... but I am very happy he took my idea of sexy on in into consideration.

    If a woman knows her man loves long hair, and gets a milliary Gi Jane cut... he would probably not be so happy about it... and if she knew he would find her less attractive and did it anyway... his attraction to her is not real high on her list of concerns.

    I believe you should love the person inside, not on the out... but if being her sexy dream guy is a haircut away I'd lean towards that. For sure.
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    sounds like there are a lot more issues than just hair.

    I prefer my husbands hair short, not buzzed but not more than a few inches long. He prefers it longer. I do not like it and admit I do not find it as attractive but... it is his choice and I still love him. I tend to keep my hair longer because he prefers it but I did cut it just above my shoulders last summer. He wasn't crazy about it but he didn't divorce me or threaten me either. It's just hair...
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    My boyfriend has a really bad recieding hair line, and i mean real bad considering most men don't get it until their alot older than he is. This doesn't bother me because i find other things on him attractive and simply just like and love him for who he is. We argue alot less than average people in my opinion (about once every two weeks) but it's always over stupid stuff then it turns nasty, nomatter how bad we argue i try my hardest and have so far succeded in keeping he's appearance out of it. I have only just got him to go swimming with me as he refused because of he's hair. I think that your argument has gone past the ridiculous line, no offence.
    Maybe it can be easily sorted if the insults are cut out?
    Just an opinion


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