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Junior Member
how fast should someone move on?
I just ended a serious relationship with someone I cared about. For various reasons, it just didn't work. He started choosing many things over me and I realized I wasn't high up on his list of priorities even though he told me differently....to me actions speak much louder than words.
One part of me feels I need time to just straighten my thoughts out and one part of me wants to get back right away to dating and meeting new people just for the fun of it and keep my mind off being alone.
How do you feel about this? Should I start right back up or should I take some down time? I'm not sure what will be healthier for me. 
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Silver Contributor 100+ Posts
Just go with the flow. If you feel ready to get out and meet other new people-for fun, then do it. It sounds to me that you are on your way to being over the previous relationship. Nobody died, so there isn't a period of mourning you have to go through. Hang out with friends you might have neglected while in your serious relationship....I don't think there is a time limit! 
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A rule of thumb is that it takes as long to get
out of a relationship as it took to get into it.
You need time to regain the 'I' from the 'us'.
Too often we cut and paste our lives to
fit around the other. When we retract from
the other, whether via death, divorce,moving
on...whether it was a choice or not, there must
be a period of time in which 'Us' disintegrates
and the "i' emerges.
Rushing into another relationship often brings
the 'ex' along.
You have to get rid of the ex so that there
are not three people on this date.
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Silver Contributor 100+ Posts
There is always carryover but you know it time IMHO when the one you are leaving no longer gives you pleasure or love or anything positive.
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