Starting to feel content on my own.....is this a good thing

**snuffie** · 07-27-2010 02:46 PM

After a horrible and painful split with my ex boyfriend, I'm starting to feel very happy with being on my own, getting things done for me, changing my body, playing sport ect, and to be honest I don't want to have a relationship at the moment, is this normal?

**LanaBear** · 07-27-2010 02:49 PM

Meh.... What is normal? Normal can only be defined by you.

Is it a good thing? ABSOLUTELY!

Regardless if you are in a relationship or not, you need to be your own person, you need to be content with yourself and what you are doing before you can ever be happy in a relationship, IMO. If you are too entrenched in the other person in your relationship, I think you start to lose yourself and soon become a shell of the person you once were. The more content you are NOW, the better a relationship with be in the FUTURE.

Live life for yourself right now. If you don't want a relationship right now, more power to you!

**rcoreyus** · 07-27-2010 06:34 PM

Nothing wrong with not wanting a relationship now - or even ever. For now enjoy the freedom of not being tied to someone. Later if you decide you want a relationship again you can.

**PandaPaws** · 07-27-2010 06:45 PM

Great to hear you're happy

That's the most important thing, whether you're in a relationship or not.

**Mes T** · 07-27-2010 06:53 PM

I think this is wonderful.

Keep it up, and if you're meant to be in a relationship at some point down the road, it will find you.

**pule_p** · 07-28-2010 02:24 AM

Originally Posted by Mes_T

I think this is wonderful.

Keep it up, and if you're meant to be in a relationship at some point down the road, it will find you.

It all goes show time really heals, i'm happy for you. i'm glad you came out a better person out of all this

**snuffie** · 07-28-2010 11:57 AM

Thank you for your kind words, I guess the only way I can describe it is being content, eventually yes I would like a relationship and a future, a family but for now I am becoming increasingly comfortable in my own skin, and yes time is a healer they are all right

**Beautiful Disaster** · 07-29-2010 06:15 PM

Thank you for your kind words, I guess the only way I can describe it is being content, eventually yes I would like a relationship and a future, a family but for now I am becoming increasingly comfortable in my own skin, and yes time is a healer they are all right

This makes me very very happy to hear.

I can't tell you how exhausting it is to watch people jump in and out and back in and back out of relationships constantly. Never even once considering that they truly need some time to themselves. The fact that you are content, is an AWESOME thing. This means you've grown, continuing to grow, are learning about yourself, reflecting, enjoying who you are, and are confident in your skin. Be proud, be very proud.