I met up with the ex..

**m.hendry** · 07-31-2010 12:25 PM

So i posted a few days back about going to meet up with my ex. I did. I would say it went well ut now at the end of the day i'm a little confused.
We met up after much discussion, he didnt know if he was ready or not, but we met up anyway. I saw him for about an hour, he gave me a hug and we talked about what we had been up to and in general about him going off to college. He gave me a little hug during one of our conversations and said its good seeing you again. When i was leaving he gave me one more and he got a little teary, i asked what was wrong and he said it was just really sad and ive not to think he hasnt missed me. He said he would come see me next week. Which im very glad he wants to see me, he could have easily said this is the last time.
We spoke later that night on msn i gave him a little tour of my room because i had re-arranged it, i showed him where my bed was now and he said he missed it. He also done the usual telling me to stop hiding my face because i had no makeup on, telling me i looked lovely.
So really what I'd like to know is other peoples opinions of they way he was, i'm not sure whats going on in his head. I suppose he still has feelings for me, but i'm not sure if they are enough for him to want to get back into a relationship. Just an outsiders perspective really. Thank you x

**Beautiful Disaster** · 07-31-2010 12:59 PM

Why did you all break up?

I think you're "overthinking" this. When two people break up after a decently long relationship, they will, of course miss each other to some extent. But you must remember that people break up for a reason. That reason doesn't just disappear because you miss the person. They are an ex for a reason.

I say go with the flow. Don't let yourself get overly preoccupied with this guy, who is not your boyfriend. If he WANTS to get back together, I'm sure he'll tell you. But don't just let it be his choice.....consider why you broke up to begin with, and whether or not you really want to put yourself in that situation again.

**BabyGirl** · 07-31-2010 07:35 PM

B.D, C.W , H.D, W.C and a few of our Wonderful Male members. All give the Best Advice that I have seen in a forum. That is why I still visit, read, support and sometimes share a little of my " elder " Wisdom that I was taught.

I am still learing from all of the above and all that question and share here .

Being almost 55 and a mother of 4 grown adults, having them, going thru the years before them,going thru the basic everyone goes through, different stages of Life and Most important Love...

Age does matter, in where you are in your "Developement" of Love. You learn to Love from your Parent(s) or Family, then it Changes when you go through " Puberty" a hormonal Balancing act... that your Body and Mind goes ( insert Medical terms for all the changes you go thru from say 11 years old to Now ) lol

Then.. No matter what age you are. Ask yourself what the Word "LOVE" means to you ?

1) Is it being taken care of or a feeling that you want to take care of ?

2) Is it a new Awakening or just something that you are Missing or never had in your life ?

3) Does it have anything to do with sex or learning about sexual relationships and what is Expected or Not Allowed ( in eithers Life) ?

Now if you thought about any of those questions to yourself or about someone you love or Loved.

This is the place to Learn, Share and get many Opinions, Advice and Experiences from. Some are Generic responces, like they have been thru and read and answered the same question so many times it is a " Pre~Formed "

.. YOU ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER,...

We are only Verifying & Validating, that you have a problem and you would like some "Help " from others to help you deal with what is on your mind or in your heart ..

**** So with that done,

I would like to ask how old are you ? Were you ( add the new language in here ) meaning, boyfriend, child together ? The reason why I ask is the word EX ..(x)

Ex to me means it was done and is done and if you istill LOVED that person, you always will have a "love " for them..

You will Share here.. And we will Share also..

**m.hendry** · 08-01-2010 07:18 AM

Hello HisBabyGirl I'm 19 years old, he broke up with me around 4 weeks ago. I'm just asking for other peoples perspectives because when it comes to this kind of thing i dont trust my own intuition, i'm scared i'll stay silent about the way he is being, jump to my own conclusions and get hurt. So just knowing how other people interperet the way he was helps me to get my head together and really learn to let go if thats the case. Thank you x

**jns** · 08-01-2010 01:20 PM

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

Why did you all break up?

Why did you break up? Unless the issues are resolved, it won't work.

**m.hendry** · 08-02-2010 07:11 AM

hey jns, sorry i explained in my other post but not this one. We broke up because we were arguing a lot, silly things really like how long we would see each other for and when. He said to me that he wanted the freedom to travel without anyone holding him back, hes going off to college in Brighton this year, he said it wasn't working out for him. He's broke up with me and got back with me many times. This time he said he just can't do it anymore. He's a very confusing person at times for a while it seemed he didnt know if he wanted to be with me or not. This caused me problems because i found it hard to know when he was being sincere about wanting me because his mind would change. The arguments really messed up our relationship, i felt they could be solved, he after a while stopped trying though. It was just hard to know how he really felt about me, and meeting up the other day and him being sad just confused me a little bit. I kept it together though because i wanted to just enjoy the time we have left as friends before he goes away, and in my opinion it just wasnt the time to talk feelings.

**jns** · 08-02-2010 08:33 AM

Who initiates the break ups? Does he do it all of the time? It sounds like he may be manipulating you to keep you in waiting when he is gone to pursue other pursuits. Between get togethers and break ups, do you or he have other relationships? The arguments may be a way to keep the relationship from getting to point where more commitment is required.

**m.hendry** · 08-02-2010 12:25 PM

It was always him who initated the breakups, if you mean relationship as in seeing other people aswell, we were seeing each other exclusively. He has a very very close relationship with his friends, almost everyday he would see them. When he would leave my house he would go straight to his friends. It really to me because he spent all this time with them and when it came to me i felt like i wasnt as important, so i would want him to stay another night and he wouldnt then an arguement would start. We never really got to fix this.

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