Thread: Boyfriend was talking with another girl

As a Mature Vibrant over 50 Woman , that many Younger men have and still " Do " hit on or want a relationship with me .

I have one thing to say.. And I always say it in the best possible, non dregrading and thankfully appreciative way.


My rules are ..

I will not or can not or ever imagine myself having a sexual or marital relationship with

1) Anyone I could have Given Birth to... ( 13 years younger in the old days when woman hood began about 13 )

2) Anyone I could have Changed their Diapers or Babysat.

3) Anyone who's parents could be my Sister/Brother or 1st , 2nd, Twice removed Cousins or Aunt or Uncle or are of My Generation.

Not saying it's a bad choice, but raising kids is supposed to end when they are 18 ( USA) and out on their parents home, even though 2 of mine are still home, due to finances.

I could never accept someone over or under their " age range of maybe 5 years " as a mate for me or anything but someone who has not grown up, needs a Mommy or Daddy or is looking for a Meal ticket while they learn to be " Responsible ADULTS"

That was my Mean side ( or Motherly Advise side).

6 Years and your 5 kids ?? Where is the Commitment ? He's not living with you and is he helping to raise the 5 Kids ?? Or just yours and his ??? Are you helping him to be a better Father to Your Children & your child with Him ??


Having a roomie that is Female ? hmmmm. That is trouble in it'self for those old enough to have kids 16, Much more than having a 16 year younger boyfriend. That Could be a Child of yours ( age wise )..

Put yourself in your age now and all 5 of your kids and add 16 years to Their ages, divide it to someone Dating / Relationship with them that is 16 years Older.. ( does not matter sexes)..

Wow !!!!!!! is all I can say...


Help him grow up as and learn to be a Man..


, Don't be his Sugar Momma, Don't have him be your Boyfriend, Let him be the Young Butterfly that he is,.. The one that Learned love from you, Resposibilty from You.

Yes, he is that much younger than me and we do both love each other for who we are. Hard to imagine, with the age difference, but that's what it is. My other 4 children are all adults but 2 still live with me (22 yr old and 18 yr old). No, he does not live with me because my 2 girls still live with me and they do not like him. My girls are religious and I can't even show affection in front of them. Hasn't made for a very strong relationship with the bf all this time. I have my reservations about marriage or even living together only because of my previous marriage. It's like "been there, done that." He has said and continues to say he wants to marry me or move in together but I have had my other girls there and at the onset of the relationship, kept it from them because of their beliefs. They feel I've lied to them and they are right and I have apologized but they can't seem to move on. He does help me with the baby but has really nothing to do with my other 2 girls living with me. I have spoken with my girls that things need to change, I am an adult and need to have my privacy but they don't seem to think that they can allow me to continue to live in sin. All of this and now trust issues. Even though he didn't sleep with the other girl, he was still telling her things that he wanted to do with her. He is the one who told me that he told her that. He said he was only playing around but I know that you don't say something that you don't mean. Don't know if I can walk away from this relationship since I love him.