Cheating wife, now what? pregnant by someone else.

**bfgfsex** · 08-11-2010 03:50 AM

we married on 2008, we loved each other from 2006

after married she leaved my country & go USA for 6 moths, when she came she was pregnant of 10 weeks. but she told thats my baby but when i preseure how come it can be, that she is doing sex only for 1 week with me. i take her to DR for a D & C and she is fine now after a lots of money.
btw, she did another abortion before married.

after all she said everything may be 5% true. she had sex with someone else. and might be very horrible. but i feel she love me too, and i love her too. but a lots of stuff now killing me.

now again she is out of my country for 6 moths, she will come next moths, she told everything is fine.
and not doing anything, so how can i trust her? trust is already gone.

btw she told me a lots lied, and spent a lots of money on cloths. just opposite of mine. In this case how can i control her?

is that good to spying anyone? bcoz i saw her inbox, 1 guy emailed her that he want a true relation with her, and might be she had a blow job with her too. its happen again ? she talked a lots of Guys. i say her telephone bill.

in This Case what should i do ?
I do not have any sex with anyone else. I just truly love her.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-11-2010 04:16 AM

Well all I can say is have a paternity test firstly over the baby...but what do you mean she is after lots of money?

And, you established she had sex with someone else? How?

If she lies, spends your money on clothes for herself, she is a meal ticket and you are being tricked and I am sorry so you need to establish paternity, grow a back bone and realise your worth, understand that love is two ways not one and make sure your not being used, ....

You say she has lied to you and uses your money.. You can't control that unless you ensure she has no credit card or funds in YOUR name.. that she can use... No it's not good spying but obviously, in your case your seeing things and it's about you here, so in that case, I'd say, it was needed.

If you read an email, that said "true relationship" she's searching for more money, ... in myu opinion and if you read she gave him a blow job and your married, run, real fast... This women is hungry not for you but for finances, and who can provide the most in my opinion.

See a lawyer, save the emails, print them out... you can love someone because you WANT love but not someone whom takes advantage of you on-going, see the light.

CW

**bfgfsex** · 08-11-2010 04:58 AM

- she told she had sex, bcoz she was pregnant of 10 weeks, when she came.

- she might have sex with different guy, she stayed in a hotel with one 1 my friend. multiple days. my friend told me and showed pictures. she played with him that she love.

- I spent my money which i earn by my hard work & i worked whole night without sleep for earning money.

- when she leave this time, i taken her t-mobile/chase bank & all other password.
but recently she changed her t-moble & bank password. and open a new email address.

- Its very bad time for money i told her to stop going parlor but still going without knowing me, and last week she go to a party with almost naket dress. i saw the pics in facebook.

after a lots of straggle with my mind, she was 2 times abortion but why a guy again write to her :

"I am telling you truth.. I was feeling so good when i was with you.. and today you took me the heaven.. had a very nice and good time..Sorry if i hurt you or not able to give you that pleasure as you thought.. but m sure u enjoyed my company and we will enjoy further too.."

what the email mean. she had sex? but i asked her. she said she gave a friendly kiss. but i know she is a great liar, she meet her Manhattan a lots of time after office.

if i wana leave her i will have a loss of good amount of money, i am not that much rich. but i really wanted a good healthy life.

if i wana leave her then what kind of proof i need to show that she cheat with me. i have a a lots of proof. just wana make sure.

Thanks

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-11-2010 05:21 AM

You have proof facebook.

You have proof, email.

I am so sorry for you.. "today you took me to heaven, you enjoyed, and futher too" etc, sounds as if she didn't give totally, for the game of making him spend on her..

I think you're in trouble..she is trying to con, and you too, I think that you need to seek Lawyer's advice...

**Beautiful Disaster** · 08-11-2010 06:53 AM

You are not with the woman you thought you married.

She has cheated, is still cheating, and instead of correcting her behaviors and showing remorse, she's simply going to try harder to cover them up.

She got pregnant, would not admit it was by another man, but agreed to having an abortion which you helped her pay for? Doesn't that sound kind of strange for her to do if she didn't cheat? Also you mention she's had 1 or 2 abortions prior to this one. This should tell you something about the woman you're married to....... she consistently does not take responsibility for her actions.

What that man wrote to her in the email, was pure evidence of inappropriate behavior with your wife. If you had written that email to a woman, what do you think it would have meant? Sex, oral sex, making out, kissing, etc. So she admitted to kissing this man, which is cheating. Once again, she cheats.

You're worried about losing money, but it sounds to me like this woman is very likely to take you for every dime you have if you stay married to her.

Get a lawyer, print out the email, bring the receipt from where you paid for her abortion, then cut your losses and divorce this woman as soon as you possibly can.

**jns** · 08-11-2010 06:23 PM

You need to divorce her and spend your efforts finding a good wife. Sorry, I don't believe she is going to change.

**pule_p** · 08-16-2010 06:50 AM

Originally Posted by bfgfsex

- she told she had sex, bcoz she was pregnant of 10 weeks, when she came.

- she might have sex with different guy, she stayed in a hotel with one 1 my friend. multiple days. my friend told me and showed pictures. she played with him that she love.

- I spent my money which i earn by my hard work & i worked whole night without sleep for earning money.

- when she leave this time, i taken her t-mobile/chase bank & all other password.
but recently she changed her t-moble & bank password. and open a new email address.

- Its very bad time for money i told her to stop going parlor but still going without knowing me, and last week she go to a party with almost naket dress. i saw the pics in facebook.

after a lots of straggle with my mind, she was 2 times abortion but why a guy again write to her :

"I am telling you truth.. I was feeling so good when i was with you.. and today you took me the heaven.. had a very nice and good time..Sorry if i hurt you or not able to give you that pleasure as you thought.. but m sure u enjoyed my company and we will enjoy further too.."

what the email mean. she had sex? but i asked her. she said she gave a friendly kiss. but i know she is a great liar, she meet her Manhattan a lots of time after office.

if i wana leave her i will have a loss of good amount of money, i am not that much rich. but i really wanted a good healthy life.

if i wana leave her then what kind of proof i need to show that she cheat with me. i have a a lots of proof. just wana make sure.

Thanks

BFQ I'm sorry you going through such but YOU HONESTLY NEED TO RUN CONSIDERING YOU HEALTH AND YOUR SANITY HERE, THIS WOMAN IS like a time bomb waiting to explode.

She seem abnormal and very selfish.

**pule_p** · 08-16-2010 06:51 AM

I'm sorry you going through such but YOU HONESTLY NEED TO RUN CONSIDERING YOU HEALTH AND YOUR SANITY HERE, THIS WOMAN IS like a time bomb waiting to explode.

She seem abnormal and very selfish.