Thread: When Casual Relationship Becomes Personal?

I call it a "casual relationship" but really, the term most would probably associate with it is "friends-with-benefits". I avoid the phrase because it sounds kind of cheap and overlooks the fact that this person and I actually share a lot in common, enjoy one other's company, and are exclusive with one another sans labels.

With that out of the way, he and I have been "seeing" each other fairly regularly for the past eight months. I have a pretty flexible schedule but his work keeps him very busy, so any time he needed to work later than usual or travel home to see his family out of state, he would let me know ahead of time. No problem.

Unfortunately, his work has hit a high peak and a close family member is facing a medical crisis that has been looming for months. While I understand and competely sympathize, he has been quiet to the point of silence for the past two weeks. Not even a text to say he was going to be busy. I sent a text just to let him know I was here for him as a friend and he could call if he needed to talk, but his only reponse was that he was busy and "probably wouldn't be able to call".

I know this is the usual "girl" thing, to worry when you don't hear from the guy you're seeing (casual or not), but I'm worried. I've sent an e-mail with a few words of support for his current family issue, but am I over-thinking this? I am fine with his needing to take a break and deal with life issues, even if it means no communication at all, but I want to be sure it wasn't anything I did to cause it.

If it is "just the guy thing" to be quiet during a stressful time, any suggestions as to how I can be supportive from a distance without looking insane? I care about him a lot, but know I shouldn't be overbearing. Help, please?