Thread: What to do...

I'm sorry your husband hates his job and it's really admiring that you are going to school and also supporting Hubby with his job hunting.

With the economy so bad right now, I'm sure he is overwelmed with competing in all of the new job " applications" and discouraged by the no's or the no feedback or just having his applications ignored with no responce at all.

With him saying " I can't do that job" doesn't mean he's not looking. Him knowing and accepting what he can and cannot accomplish for a company, show's that he is recognizing his abilities , understands that even if he got a job that he knows he cannot perform to the best of his ability, could very well end with him being let go due to underperformance and him ending up " Job Hopping" which does not look good on his employment record.

You might gently remind him that even though he hates his job now. At least he has one and approximately 1/2 million new people are filing for unemployment each week and hating his job is giving an opening to those who may hate the job too, but are willing to take it, just to have a paycheck and support themselves & family.

There has to be something about the job he has now that he likes or is good at. Or he would already have left it or been let go. Help him find the good things about the job and focus on the positive and maybe try excelling in those parts, he may get promoted or put in a section of the job that he can be semi-happy with.

Instead of Showing him other jobs he should apply for, have him list what he is good at, enjoys, wants in his job ( future one). Then fill out an online Job Resource site, that sends you emails from companies that are looking for his specific qualifications.

Help him make a fabulous Resume,one that shows his assets and qualifications, there are Resume tutorials that can help bring him to the forefront .

Lastly, when he complains, be supportive but also remind him that he is still employed and that is at very least one thing he should like about his Job.. He gets a paycheck, when so many don't and so many are willing to put up with what he does, should he give the job opening , by being let go by under-performing and showing his distaste.

There is no Perfect Job, Per say, but there are Perfect People for the job at hand.

Coming from someone who has been in a miserable job before, and was constantly reminded by my mom (and rightfully so) that I needed to apply for other jobs....... I can identify with him. He moved jobs thinking life would be better, I'm sure he was excited, eager, hopeful, etc. He quickly realized the job was not what it was cracked up to be....but he has a lot of pressure on him to be the sole provider of the family right now....so he knows he has to get through every day to make that paycheck. When you're in a job you HATE, it takes every ounce of you....and by the time you get home in the evenings, the last thing you want to do is sit on the computer searching and applying for other jobs. It's exhausting....mentally draining. And then he also faces the fear that maybe he'll find another "perfect" job and move you all again, only to be miserable.

What does he do? Maybe it's time he change the course a bit and work on getting himself into another field? Maybe he's sick of this and skeptical he'll find anything in that field that will be any different, and is sort of in a rut about what to do.

Cut him some slack. Only one of you is working (or at least thats the way I understood it), you're NOT going to have a lot of money....money will be tight because it's two people living on one income. Once you get out of school and can work, things will be a lot different.

I wouldn't make an issue of it. This is a tremendous amt of pressure on him. Help him, support him and encourage him in whatever he decides to do (within reason of course haha).