Some of you may remember me and my latin lover (lets call him Luis) in Mexico. (I met him about a 2 years ago while living in Mexico. We kept in contact, and I visited him in May) I went to visit him in May and everything was awesome. We had a fabulous time and I was really sad to leave. Over the summer I went to Spain... where I slept with someone else while really drunk (which isn't an excuse, but the guy totally took advantage of the situation... anyways). I felt terrible afterwards. I know I'm in love with Luis and I hate being so far away from him.

We recently talked and decided to have an "open relationship" while we're away. I mean we're both (young) adults and have adult needs. It's hard for me to be with another guy though. All I do is think about Luis.

He's planning on coming up to visit me in December, and has even said he wants to move to the US to live... with me! It sort of scares me because I've never lived with a boyfriend before. He's working on getting a work visa which is hard because of where he's from. He would move in with me September 2011 at the earliest.

There's so many things running through my mind. I mean he's never even been to the US before, what if he doesn't like it here? We've spent so little time together, what if he doesn't like the way I live? The way I cook? The way I clean? It just seems like so many things could go wrong. My friends tell me I'm crazy and say I need to "take it slow and get to know him first". But the only way we'll get to know eachother any better than we do now is by one of us moving to the other's country.

I've talked to him about all of these things and he always says he's sure he'll like living here because he wants to be near me. It's almost how sure he is that scares me. If he would just say "it might work, it might not. But I'm willing to try" I'd feel better! He's so sure he wants to be with me, and that I'm what he's been looking for. And all I have are doubts...

What should I do? Are these feelings normal? Should I just go for it? I'm young and okay to make mistakes still... right?