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Now What?
I've been with the same guy since early May.On the 9th of this month it would have been our 4th month anniversary.Well he was a great guy...but we fought alot and he was jealous.He broke up with me last week for a very immature reason,and ever since then,he has been making me cry daily.
I added a guy friend on facebook and didnt tell him for three days.He doesnt like this guy friend and i happen to be very close with him.He has been there for me like a brother but my ex would not accept him cause he thinks that my friend has a crush on me,wich is where his jealous tendencies kick in.Because i didnt tell him for 3 days,i told him cause i didnt wanna blow it off and forget about it,and he broke up with me cause i lied for that little time.I didnt mean to lie,i just knew he wudnt accept him and hes a close person in my life.In a way,my ex was controlling.
3 days ago,he messages me on myspace and tells me he misses me and hope someday we can get back together.but he cant trust me,and doesnt want to date a liar.We worked passes,yet,another argument,and things got better til the next day.When i seen him adding about 4 or 5 new girsl to his myspace and he was leaving flirty messages.I understand he is single and can do as he pleases,but then he comes back to me,and sounds so sincere and caring like he really misses me.
Yesterday,he texts me and asks me if i wanted to be friends with benefits,but said,"just kidding im just .h.orny and i wanted to talk to you." I replied "LOL" and he replied "but if u really want to,we can be til we get back together,i miss us."
He sends me the mixed signals,and acts mad,jealous,and controlling,then he turns into the guy i used to know,the loving,caring,sensitive,and understanding guy i fell for.We are going through the same drill today,we fought for a few hours,and then things got better.We are talking and getting along,but we always go back to fighting like normal.
Im confused and i needed to vent!!
P.S.-Hope all u wonderful WH people are doing well,ive missed being on here.
Now you ask yourself... Taking the relationship as a whole, both the good sides and the bad sides... are you happy? Do you look forward to talking to him and to spending time together... or do you worry about his next outbreak of anger and jealousy?
Idk really,i mean i LOVED being with him.He wud surprise me everday and he was a good guy,til about the last month and a half or so,we have fought often.He just replied to my status on myspace and told me hes sorry for how he has been acting and wants to talk about it.Hes flirting with some other Sammy,and yet,i wait hours and hours for him to text me,call me,anything.And he blows me off.I even write him on myspace,he reads it,and doesnt reply,but he spend forever online chatting with girls.I am sooooo close to giving up.Im tired of crying and whenever he decides to stop being a jack.,he says things that make it all better,til a few days,maybe even a few hours later.I dont even tell anyone about my problems,cause i know its my fault im putting up with it.
He thinks you are doing things to make him jealous, so he does things to make you jealous. I would find someone more mature who doesn't want to play these games.
Exactly. Even if he has a nice side to him, it sounds like his jealousy controls him. He is paranoid that Gigi might go behind his back. ...and as long as she has any male friends aside from him, he is going to keep thinking that.Originally Posted by jns
Maybe he'll change in the future, but I wouldn't hold my breath. I don't know his age, but I think it's safe to say you should go for someone more mature, Gigi.
Ty guys
Sweetie you do not need a guy who plays these kinds of games. You did nothing wrong, adding someone on my space is not like spending the night with him! The fact that you felt nervous about saying something about it says that this was not a healthy relationship. It's really not his business who you add anyway. Let this one go. We live in a big state with lots of really nice young men in it, you don't need a high pressure, high drama control freak in your life who now wants you to be fwb. Just wish him well and walk away.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
Ty wc
Sometimes we see people the way we want to see them rather the way they really are. Who wants to have a boyfriend/girlfriend that's a jealous control freak? I think it's natural that you see the good in him and hope that it can triumph over his "bad" side... But people can change only if they realize they need to change and if they actually then make an effort to change. So you might wait a long time - even to eternity - if you want to wait until he does change. Maybe you're just better off without him.
Is there any drama or problems in the relationship outside of my space and facebook stuff? Is he flirty with other girls in person? Are you flirting/talking with guys in front of him when you guys are together? Is he overprotective of you about other guys in public or just on your pages? Sometimes the social networking stuff creates such a bubble that it can be nothing but drama... it might make things better if you layed low on those for a while... at the least don't add friends/update status and don't read his for a while and see if you guys can focus on what you have, if you have something outside of that chaos.
Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.
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