Confused..Any answer..

**DK2010** · 09-16-2010 01:53 AM

Hi all
4 months back,I posted a thread and got the support from you. Thanks for your advice and support.
Now new questions are popping in my mind
I had a short term relation with my friend and family doctor, which I ended 5 months back because I started feeling some attachment with him.When I have expressed my feeling he refused and humiliated me .to overcome this situation I have detached myself completely . With forum support and grace of God I recovered fully. ( for detail pls see old post no. 26082).
A while back ,he conveyed that he wanted to meet me at least for once, because he helped and supported my family in past and as a friendly gesture, I met him. Then he tried to justify that situation since I am not communicating him, he has some kind of guilt feeling. I told him it’s not your fault, I made a mistake.
He again clarified that

He loves his ex only and he can’t love any woman in his life. If he marries someone, it might be only for s*x.

He questioned 3 things
1). whether I told about us to anybody in house.
2) Am I seeing somebody else now.
3) How often I remember the act that has happened between us?
Then he muttered all old memories how he touched and step further ....... bla bla....everything in detail although I failed to understand why he was telling me that .
For first question, I have replied NO. For second, I haven’t said anything straight and told him this is not relevant question and he should not bother about this matter.

I made him very clear that I am not looking for any sort of Casual relationship and that time I felt attached to him due to bonding hormone (which is normal in woman after S*x if she had been indulged in that for longer duration- although I thought he might be aware of this, since he is doctor.)

He expressed his wish to be my friend again.
Although, I have not denied his proposal but I don’t want to be his friend at this juncture.

I have maintained my grace and calmness. Thanks again for your support , but I m confused now,
Why he has asked all these questions?
Why he described all that ?
Why he has been telling me again and again he loves ex?

Regards

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 09-16-2010 02:18 AM

Hi DK, for those that didn't reply on your thread, I've linked it below.

http://www.womens-health.com/boards/...tml#post190389

He questioned 3 things
1). whether I told about us to anybody in house.
2) Am I seeing somebody else now.
3) How often I remember the act that has happened between us?

This man is no good for you. This man wanted to make sure you have not said a word, I would suspect because 1) he does not ever want his ex to find out, as he pines for her and wants her, 2) I suspect because, he is trying to con you into doing it all over again.. This is why he asked question 2 and this is why he asked question 3...

Please tell him that he can not have his cake and eat it too, you will be civil but you do not wish to enter any form of friendship, including friends with benefits.

You deserve more and will be treated with respect and as such you are not interested.

CW