Male bestfriends why not more?

**confused28** · 09-21-2010 05:20 PM

I came along this website today and got me thinking....

So my whole life I have always been the girl to have guy friends and nothing ever more and yes I have ment some really great boyfriends through my guy friends. Almost a year ago I have come to meet a great guy and we have spent almost every day off we have had together I mean he even spent Thanksgiving and the rest of the hoildays at my parents house my family loves him and as do I but the more and more I spent with him I wish that there would be more I mean I can't explain what we have there has been no sex there was this one time where we where both really drunk and he tried but I said no cause I didnt want it to happen that way but we never talked about it and it has not happen sense? Everyone around us questions why we aren't a couple yet even my dad is like a man that wants to spend that much time with you has to be in to you? Also even people that we meet ask us how long we have been married!?! it is just crazy the bond we have and I love it never had I had these feelings before.

We are both jaded I had a 5 years relationship end badly and he had the samething happen to him I know we are both scaried but I just don't understand and I dont know how to bring it up or if he even really feels that way? To make it worst I just moved in with him about 2 months ago due to me getting a puppy I had to move out of my old place and he offered his place and it worked out great he really is a great roommate and his dog and my puppy are so good together and he is wonderful with my puppy also he has had like 3 BBQ's this summer inviting my family over. The other day I come home and he tells me he put my name on his accounts so I can make changes etc to like the cable bill.. Also this morning I wake up to a new hoodie on the kitchen counter he got me. (he works nights) so it was just sitting there for me to see it. I dont know if there is something there or if because he is the first man in my life to treat me good.I mean he is a great friend but sometimes I find us doing stuff couples would do?? He even calls me everyday just to chat where before we would only talk if meeting up or something? I mean it is going on almost a year we have known each other and have spent almost no time apart besides work I mean even when he goes out with his buddies he wants me to come along.

I mean we have had long talks and he said that he doesnt know why be he has always cheated on his pass girlfriends but at the same time he talks about his ex's as them to have been very controlling and mothering. I mean right now I love him and love what we have and cant really see my life without him but at the same time I dont see him trying to meet anyone else.
I 'm so confused and part of me just wants to enjoy what we have and if ment to be then will be!

UGH! Why as women do we have to think and put to much into something!

**LanaBear** · 09-21-2010 05:52 PM

You two need to have a conversation...

Do you WANT to be more than friends? He sounds like a great guy. If the feelings are there, I think you owe it to yourself to see if a relationship is there too.

**Becca_angel** · 09-22-2010 03:59 AM

i think you should go for it girl!
if he treats you right and cares for you that much then he's worth it.
hum buying you hoodies ect in my eyes its him trying to buy your love, but what he doesnt know is that he already has it!
and its about time you told him that!
x

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 09-22-2010 04:13 AM

He says his ex's were controlling, mothering

You say, he cheated on his past relationships

You two have been friends, up-most, fore-most and I suspect he doesn't see a controlling, mothering woman, finally and as such, he's slowly been falling...

I also think that as you both, had long relationships, not good ones, he is mindful of that with you and taking his time...

You said "no" to sex and he allowed that... but also, nothing was said... That means that he finds you attractive, and it means he is a good man...

You live together, he bought you something

I think honestly, that as long as your not controlling, not motherly, you two have a future...

Words don't need to be spoken...

Cook something, have a bottle of wine, sit there and eat and laugh, and look into his eyes and see how he looks back, dress nice and see if he makes a move...

You live together, there is nothing wrong with having a meal and wine and nothing wrong with you feeling, "girly" and wanting to put on a nice dress... Let him make the move, he's giving you the signals, or else you wouldn't write here

Welcome to the Forum.

CW