Thread: Short Attraction

Sounds like harassment. If you've told them to stop and they don't and you feel like you can't relax, I'd call the authorities for them to stop harassing you. That is extremely inappropriate for them to do that and creepy none the less. If I were you I'd send an e-mail to him saying you have no feelings for him to have his friend stop bugging you and if nothing happens, call the police.

i agree with lizzard.make it clear to everyone involved that ur not attracted nor do u have feelings for him.and let them know this is inapropriate activity for the work place. if it doesnt help take action, maybe not poice but go above his head. best of luck!

Strangely enough, you are more likely to lose your position, I would play it smart and plan an exit.

I don't know what line of work you are in but, rich older powerful men think that any women they happen to see that pricks their fantasy should say yes.

To get into the cross-hairs of such a man is unfortunate. What ever you do not email him, such a man will view that as a invitation. Try to avoid associating with any of those friends. Keep your head down and you may be able to wait him out. He is likely to move onto to easier prey. In the mean time explore alternate employment if you can.

I personally wouldn't email or contact him at all.

Another way to get the word out that you have no interest in him is to have a "Boyfriend or Fiance" This can be a make believe one if you haven't one already. Whenever his friends are around or chatting with you, Use your Boyfriends name alot, " ( chose a name ) and I " did this and that.. "We are going to his parents this weekend" "were thinking of a Summer Wedding"

Talk to one of your male friends ( not associated with work) or your Brothers friends , if you have a brother, ask someone to be a "pretend BF" for a week or so. Have him come to your work and take you to lunch, make sure the co-workers see him with you. Act as if in love.

Word will get back to the CEO , that you are taken and already involved with someone. Hopefully he will set his sights on someone who will return his attention.

Good Luck..

Thanls everyone for replying; I think I can use this forum as an outlet. I realize I didn’t emphasize one thing that you all may find it bizarre. I was actually working for his company roughly a year and a half ago. He was a CEO, but my position was that I didn’t interact with him at all; I only interacted with the immediate manager. I was there for short period of time – 3 months probably. I reside about an hour and half from this guy.

You know it is a small world and people constantly gossip and spread rumors. It must have been something that I said and did that gave these people ideas that I was interested in him; people internalized and rationalize. For example, we have been experiencing the heat wave in the West on Saturday and Sunday. For the whole day, I didn’t turn on the AC. When I got back from my workout at night, it was so hot and humid inside when I walked in the door. I couldn’t open the windows to let the air in because it didn’t help. I turned on the AC immediate as I walked inside, and the next door neighbor thought that I was giving some sign or indication that I am turned on, the situation is on, or that I didn’t mean it that I wanted to tell him off. The next door neighbor somehow is a friend of a friend with this guy. Later, on Sunday, I went to store to buy a box of cookies, the box was green. I noticed some people there were following me to see what shopping items I was buying. They somehow took it again as a sign that it’s a green light or that I really like him.

It’s really bizarre, I know that my intuition is always correct. I have to wonder then when I can turn on the AC and buy cookies with a green box without being cautious or without causing some to speculate, assume, and insinuate. I tell you I can’t do whatever it is that I want to do without stopping and thinking to see if it would lead to more gossips and rumors. I used to shop at Walmart to buy cheap things for the household, but I couldn’t anymore. I now have to shop at Target. I guess it is OK; Target has some lower prices and closer.

I am a grown woman now, and I don’t fantasize or get infatuated with someone I have never met. I used to when I was in my 20’s and 30’s. The only thing I am aware of this guy is that he is about my age or younger than a year – 44 or 45. He doesn’t seem to be very mature. Being a CEO doesn’t mean that you are smarter and know everything about people. I think maturity comes with age and of all the things that you would have had to struggle. I am totally happy with myself and very confident. Another example, when I changed my gym location because people there were gossiping and spreading rumors, he had someone followed me and used the treadmill next to me on my right side. She was running and she made a fist on her right hand moving and directing toward me as though she wanted to punch me. I now have to either go home or find another equipment when someone gets next to me on the treadmill again. Those are some serious tantrum throwing there. I see all these things as very childish, and I don’t see this guy as someone who has a silent, strong type personality. I hate these sort of guys, and they repulse me.

I could go on and on, but I am wasting my energy on this. I am safe where I am because he has not tried to communicate to me or reach out to me. In reality, it would be a no if he ever tried to communicate to me. A no is always a No, no matter what they think about my shopping list and what I do at home. I would have to ignore what I see and silence my thoughts. Well, it’s either a flat out no or a restraining order. At this stage in my life, I don’t have room for these behaviors and these sort of guys. I would prefer to go out with someone who was older, talller and an Electrician than a young, short and a immature and lack of life experience CEO. Also, my intution tells me that some woman I used to work for is also behind this. But then again I have to silence my thought and do whatever I want, but then maybe not; they want to control what I can and can’t do – it seems.

I know all of this sounds really bizarre but thanks for letting me vent. I rarely talk about what I think, and this is a beginning to let people know what I think inside and, of course, of them.

By the way, I don’t know how they do that. How are they able to gossip and spread rumors so quickly. They must have some sort of network.