Thread: Can a marraige survive a year or more living apart...?

I am wondering the same question. I have a boyfriend who has been offered a job in a different state. No problem, I would move with him. I'd only see him once a month for 7 months. Are we strong enough to last? Will I start to lose feelings for him? How do army wives do it...I dont understand. Hopefully we can get some answers.

In my mind i try to think of steps i could take now, to help our present and future together. And in turn aid in a positive reaction.. And i am at a loss... (brain is on lock down).. I keep coming back to; I could hold the world on my shoulders wrap it in fine paper with a bow and it would not change a thing. Because i am part of the marriage and he is the other. But i also am of the mindset.." Never give up never surrender!" This situation is new to me and therefor i may not be thinking on all the right channels.. Perhaps some other posters will come to the rescue with a thought or idea... or over the next few days one will present itself to me.
Perhaps a look into a crystal ball..........???(CW)

25 years seems like a pretty stable commitment. What makes you think it wouldn't work?

I know this is bringing up the past...
But, there was a time, about 20 years ago.. Hubby was living on campus 3 hrs. away,finishing his masters degree. I was working and paying his way...taking care of our 3 year old and pregnant. He had an affair! That was only 3 hrs. away, and for a few months... That and the online sites, "private life", metting up with old girlfriends......

How recent was the online/meeting old gfs stuff? Have you brought that up to him as a fear of yours? That's justified in my opinion.

Originally Posted by sourpuss

How recent was the online/meeting old gfs stuff? Have you brought that up to him as a fear of yours? That's justified in my opinion.

I only have voiced the generalization... in other words, i stated.." I am concerned about him fooling around"..
Which he stated to me, he would not.. (It is difficult to trust this, as Trustworthy is not high on his priority list) and i so.... want to be able to do so...

I think you just need to sit down and be really frank and open about it all. No holds barred. He needs to know where you are coming from and make a serious effort towards building trust BEFORE and while he is away for it to work. But you can't beat around the bush.

There are Real Estate Management companies that can sell you home for you. You can also have a family member or friend show your house and take care of the property for you. There is a Property Management Co. in my town that charges $30 a month to look after your property.

You can arrange to do automatic bill paying from your checking account for electric and water bills. Both electric and water costs will be minimal if no one is living there. You can have a neighbor kid mow the lawn when needed. There are also ways to have your lights turn on automatically at night and off during the day. so the home doesn't look vacant.

There also is Month to month Rental, The Lease with option to Buy.. Many ways to be able to go with your Hubby.


With all these options ...You can move with your hubby if he wants you to go with him.

My concern would to be why he would not see the options as a positive thing and appreciate and desire that you move with him and continue with your 25 year marriage..