is this a big deal!?

**claire7** · 10-25-2010 09:34 AM

Arghhhh men! My boyfriend and I have been together for 8months and generally its good, we have our ups and downs but we love each other and want it to work. We are from different cultures and countries and English is not his first language so we do have different ideas on things. I trust him and I dont believe he is cheating or that he would BUT he drives me crazy on facebook. He used to comment on an exs pictures a lot but has stopped since I told him how upset it made me. He does still comment on other peoples profiles and he doesnt seem to see why it upsets me. I know he doesnt know these women and I don't believe he is meeting them or anything like that...it just drives me cazy!!! Am i overreacting?

**sourpuss** · 10-25-2010 09:35 AM

What kind of comments is he leaving?

**Agony_Aunt** · 10-25-2010 09:43 AM

Facebook is a social networking site, and it's main purpose is for talking and chatting to people.
But I don't see why your boyfriend would comment on the profiles of women that he doesn't know?

Same question as Sourpuss, what kind of comments is he leaving, or why do they upset you?

**vancityguy** · 10-25-2010 02:54 PM

its also possible that he continues to do this cuase he's getting a reaction out of you....i am a 24yr old guy and ill be honest...with my ex gf. if we were to go out somewere and a good looking girl would walk by ide point her and invite my gf to part take so she knew i wasnt trying to HIDE it from her...and she was totally cool with it, she would start pointing out women to me like oh wow look at rack on her and telling me to chek out the chik with a nice across the room , it was great ,comfortable, honest..and GREAT!! as a guy we look at women on a daily basis. but like my grandma always says...."you can go out for a picnic as long as you come home for dinner!" its probably at the point were youre not so mad at him for messaging these women but mad that he is now not listening to your needs. personally ide say don't worry about it he's just being a little immature about it...maybe start commenting on some guys pictures and see what he says then..

**stressed** · 10-25-2010 03:59 PM

What he's doing is a light form of "interactive porn". He enjoys the exchange of comments with women (I'd guess most of them have attractive photos). If it bothers you you have every right to tell him to stop. I personally consider it disrespectful behaviour.