Thread: Freaking myself out a little

Based on what I recall about the length of this relationship, it seems like you are allowing things to move at warp speed...... and well, that's just never worked out well, for me at least.

The answer is yes, you do need your space. It's AWESOME to have the great feelings, but embrace them, enjoy them, but it's too new to be playing house.

You can enjoy what you're feeling, and make wise decisions at the same time.

I have known him for about 4 years but only officially dating for about 2-3 months... so yeah, that is like warp speed but it feels sooooo good! lol! it just hurts to miss him even though i like the fact that i miss him. does that make any sense?

We still take our personal time each day to go to work (obviously! but we text during the day) and then after work we do our separate things like studying, gym time, dinner, etc... but he's on my mind constantly. i am considering myself to be either addicted or obsessed! just kidding for the most part...

That's how it was with my current boyfriend in the beginning. We texted each other all day and tried to spend as much time together as possible. This excitement will die down a little bit, but I wouldn't suggest moving in or anything after 2-3 months. At least wait until your first "official fight", lol, because that says a lot about a person. Do you ever discuss your feelings with him? Does he say he feels the same?

How old are both you?

yeah i know it'll move past this infatuation stage sooner or later. we don't want to move in together...at all. but i think that there will come a day where have to reevaluate that agreement. we're having discussions about moving across the country at some point but living in different apartments...

we talk about everything. i share with him my fears and delights about the relationship and he does the same with me. its really nice to have this level of communication.

oh, we are both 28

I've had one experience where I felt like you do right now. To say the least, I was like a giddy little girl. I'm... never, ever a giddy little girl.

It seems like every second you're away from him, you're slowly suffocating. And every second you're with him, the happiness that couldn't possibly grow -- does.

I agree with Lizzard, a first fight shows everything, and I'd wait until then to see how the relationship really is. The guy I felt like this about got scared our first fight because he figured out how much I really meant to him, and... broke up with me.

Needless to say, there are regrets, and I think I'll go through them with you just in case it might help.

• Give yourself a couple days out of the week. Don't text, don't talk. Just kinda let him know what your plans are, that way he can 100% trust you.
• Keep living your life. When a relationship like this hits, you tend to forget most of what you do outside of work/school because you two are doing everything together. Well, don't. Keep going to the gym or spending that time with your girlfriends.
• Tease a bit more. I'm a pretty sexual person, and after 2 months of spending -every- night with my ex, we had sex -every- night (aside from the period). I kinda wish I would've held off a little bit more, and done more teasing.

Anyway, congratz. Quit scaring yourself. Enjoy it to the fullest. Just remember, make sure you're keeping a tight grip on your own life.