crazy stalker like ex

**mzhk** · 11-03-2010 07:01 PM

I am so glad I finally remembered how to get back in here. I come from one crazy familiy to whom I can't talk talk too. Online thread seems to be my only way to release my bitterness and confusion. 2006, I got myself into one crazied mess with a guy. He didn't finally leave me be until March of 2007? Let's cut this short btwn yelling, swearing and calling cops. Not to mention having other ppl tell him off for me? He didn't leave me alone til he found someone esle's life to wreak. Funny thing is I always thought Canada to be a place where there are law's to protect. Unfortunantly, the police here said it's very hard to charge someone with stalking. I'd need more then what I have? I was so glad I got rid of the sorry sucker. Funny thing is since March of 2007 he stopped trying to find my number. I myself had blocked every contact with him and his group of ppl. Out of no where Morning of Halloween I had an add from a different account? I stupidly should of known because the fb name reminded me the simliarity but i didnt catch on ( it was morning my brain wasn't on ). I asked " who is this " and he said it was him...then he went on with two messages asking me if he has been forgiven yet? blah blah... i blocked that account right away.
My question is : after 4 years what's the likely chance the sorry sucker is going to stalk me down in my town?? police refuses to give me a restrainning order against him. 36 brusies was enough to scar me for a life time. ( pardon, the horrible grammer and the typo's.. doctor's meds are getting to me. But i can't sleep sleep because i'm so bothered by the thought of this a__hole! )

**Beautiful Disaster** · 11-04-2010 06:33 AM

Unfortunately in some areas, domestic violence and stalking isn't taken very seriously. And in no area is it taken seriously enough. My suggestion is lay low, and do not have ANY communication with him whatsoever for any reason. Don't go out by yourself unless you just have to. Have someone walk you to your door when you get home, especially in the evenings. I wouldn't say it's necessary to do this forever, but since he's recently contacted you, it may be a good idea for a while.

What are the chances he knows where you live? Google your name and and see what kind of basic information pops up about yourself.

**mzhk** · 11-04-2010 08:22 AM

Hi, thanks for replying. I haven't left anything personal online in years. Since the day I broke up with him I stopped leaving personal info online. Thus, One of his good friend has my address. I don't know how likely that dude might rat me out... I donno if he'll pop up infront my door? He's only an hr and 30mins away. i find it soo funny that he thinks i'm just mad. I'm beyond furious

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-04-2010 04:33 PM

Just be careful and always look over your shoulders.

Chances are he has no one at the moment and is going back through that little black book so to speak, to harrass, I'm glad he lives a fair way away and that you closed that account and he has no way to contact you.

Maybe, he'll concentrate on someone else, which is sad for them, obviously but safer for you...

**mzhk** · 11-04-2010 07:07 PM

Scary! Now, you make me wonder if that is the case? It's been 4 whole years he has only attempt twice since I threaten to call the cops. I'm wondering now if that is the case that the reason why he's asking if he has been forgiven yet? Is because his life is empty that's why he wants to torture me instead?. His freind's used to say that I'm cold for not forgiving. But I can't forgive someone who hurts me physically and emotionally. Old habits never die. He is a bully and always will be. Sadly, Canada's law is so funny! They wont do anything unless the a_________does something in public for edvdience. FEeels like cops wont do anything unless that a_hole stabs me or something for finger prints..... I heard the laws in America is stronger against these kind of stalking abusive ways. If USA's medical coverage didnt suck i would of moveddd long ago

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-06-2010 03:39 PM

If he said " I'm sorry" then he in my opinion would be moving in a different direction in life, to ask am I forgiven yet?, tends to make me think that he had no one at that time, to contact, to try to get back on his side, it seems you stayed with him through the abuse, and possibly others did as well.. Men like that, like to control...

Your friends perhaps weren't told the complete picture or thought that this guy " poor thing has anger issues" . Always trust your intuition, if he was physical he was physcial and that's not something you play a part in....

Just make sure you have no other way of him contacting you... and hopefully, he'll move on to someone else to harrass and this was a once off due to the account you had open..

I would imagine though if he stalked you, via a phone/internet, they can do something such as a restraining order, as they would have proof on phone bills and emails/computer records.

CW

**mzhk** · 11-06-2010 08:23 PM

I brought phone bills at the time and the police said that wasn't enough? Said I'd need more edvidence then that. After a year of him leaving me alone? I thought oh yay* he's stopped asking ppl for my number and stopped readding me. I'm in the clear. So, stupidly, i threw everything away. He left me alone 2007,2008,2009 and 2010 almost done. Yes, I think your right does sound like he's ( bored ). He didnt say he was sorry. He wrote some translated into english means :

hi, it's me ____________! Are you still angry with me? am i forgiven ? I heard that your very happy now in life and I am very happy about that. The thought of you happy brings joy into me. I wish you all the best in life even though your happiness is not with me.

_______________________________________

I was very angry because it was sooo early in the morning. So, I wrote back saying " you sure have some nerve!!! Leave me alone " !! Then, i blocked