What is right and wrong anymore?

**Just_Saying** · 11-10-2010 01:29 PM

I don’t know what else to do, and I am so tired of this. I don’t know what is going on inside a guy’s mind. I already told the guy that physically we don’t match; I am not into short guys. Intellectually, we don’t match either; I am not into guys who are younger and immature. Even worst the guy already had shown his ill-tempered personality side of him to me – punching, kicking, and hitting. I cannot imagine hanging around with someone who has a tendency to be physically abusive if some little thing pisses him off, such as not responding positvely to his advances or overture.

He already made an impression on me, and this impression already had turned me off. When I am turned off, I want nothing to do with this guy or take the time to know more about him, so that other qualities would diminish his explosive personality. I am not a violent person even though I am a phsycially tall and big, muscular girl than he is. I don’t know what else to tell this guy that I am never going to be interested or into him.

I can’t see why this guy insisting on changing my mind. My impression of him has already been tarnished and distorted. From now on, I have to do what is necessary to be healthy and productive, so I told him don’t read into things or what I do as some sort of sign that I am interested or have changed my mind.

I am not a type of girl that would want to mislead anyone at all. I have been accused by his friends of making a big deal out of this, but enough is enough. I would have to find an outlet to get my story heard if this guy continues to prod at me about it and remind me time and time again.

I have also been accused by his friends of taking medications or not and not seeing a therapist for raising my concerns. That's unintelligent and immature for his friends to glorify this guy's actions and to undermine my peace of mind and well-being. My well-being doesn't mean taking medications or seeing the therapist according to them. The guys that needs to take medications and see a therapist is him and his friends, whom are delusional and forcing the idea that somehow I will change my mind. I am certain the guy will benefit from taking the medications and going for therapy rather than me.

There are guys who just won’t accept a no for an answer or can’t handle rejections, especially after I have said it so many times that I am not into him and about all these rude and unattractive things about him.

**KMonte85** · 11-10-2010 01:55 PM

How is this man and his friends still in contact with you? Are they speaking with you in person, over the phone, email?

cut ALL ties. Change your # if you must, block their emails or change yours. Call the police and/or an attorney and have them speak with these people about what harrassment is and how it relates to what you're saying they're doing to you.

Do you have any of these conversations documented? If so, give them to the police and/or your attorney as evidence of what is going on, if you haven't gone this route already. There are ways to remove yourself from a situation, and it seems that this situation keeps haunting you. Try changing your tactics to get your message heard.

**lizzardb63** · 11-10-2010 02:53 PM

I believe what KMonte85 said is 100% what you should do.

**Just_Saying** · 11-20-2010 12:13 PM

I am not going to waste my time with the legal system.

This guy, kicking and punching, doesn't get. it. I can't be angry and be on guard all the time. I repudiated and repudiated time after time, but he kept insinuating that I want something from him and his friends. The guy is self-Centered, Egotistical, and Odd. For this reason he thinks he owns the world, and that any girl would yield to his demand and command. I am going to resist time after time until this guy gets tired of the repudiation and realizes the reality is I stand by what I say and do. Mature people don't say one thing and do another or change for someone who is self-Centered, Egotistical, and Odd. They live by their principles.

Must be the guy is short and has a smalll brain and is wired to be infatuated with girls who have shown disrepect toward him time after time again and again. So so very immature and so sad.

The more this guy kicking and punching his way toward me the more I see how immature, arrogant, self-Centered, Egotistical, and Odd his state of mind time after time. Who would want to hang around with this guy and his friends?They all want to be better, smarter, more outgoing, and more well-received by others, more popular, and constantly have the need to be put on the pedestal? Who would dare to compete with them because you never know - wouldn't want to bleed on the back. Funny but true!

"He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it."
Martin Luther King, Jr.

"An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind."
Buddha

**ItsASecret** · 11-20-2010 12:19 PM

Okay so the guy sounds like a genuine d-bag, use the 'principles' you state and just avoid the guy.

**KMonte85** · 11-21-2010 03:13 PM

If you don't want to use the legal system to your advantage, then you're stuck trying to avoid him and his friends (which doesn't sound like thats going so great) or dealing with his unwanted advances and odd behaviors until they finally get the message (yeah right) or give up or find someone else to harrass.

I still think it would be good for you to report this to SOMEONE... if what you're saying is true, he seems very unstable, and unstable people can be dangerous. The police having no record of what's going on will delay all proceedings should this guy do something, God forbid, that requires you get the police involved.

But that is your perogative.. deal with this as you see best, and good luck!

**BabyGirl** · 11-21-2010 05:50 PM

How do you know this guy and his friends ? It is Odd that you can't just totally Avoid them all together unless you work with him or them and if you do a supervisor should be notified immediatly of the Harrassment..