"Widows weekend" and male strippers

**lizzardb63** · 11-21-2010 08:59 PM

Okay, so a few girls and I went to a male strip show because all our men are up north deer hunting and doing "guy things", which probably includes going to a strip club. Anyway, so last night my friend "S" and I had so much fun, they gave us lap dances (they were only like 15 seconds long and moved on to the next girl), but i can't help but feel guilty for it. It literally was just honest fun and I would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend, but why do I feel so guilty? Someone help me feel better? I told him about it and he was okay with it, but i just cant shake this feeling...

**Colorado** · 11-21-2010 10:26 PM

Lol, so why is it every woman thinks that when we go hunting we're hunting bipeds?

I can say honestly (on a bible) that whenever I've been hunting - its been HUNTING. Deer, Pheasant, Elk, Duck, Goose, etc... Never have we ever done a stripclub or anything of the sort - ever.
I'll not say it's unheard of of the men who go hunting to REALLY hunt, FAR outweight the yahoos who use it as an excuse for a kitchen pass.

and Lizzard - Only you know what happened there, and if you know that "nothing" happened but good fun, then no biggie - nothing to worry about - obviously he trusts you to know the diff between right and wrong.

**LanaBear** · 11-21-2010 10:35 PM

Originally Posted by Colorado

Lol, so why is it every woman thinks that when we go hunting we're hunting bipeds?

Hey now, hey now, hey now.... lol, not EVERY woman thinks that. I don't! For one, where we go hunting is about 3 hours from civilization and two, I go too! Besides all that, I've learned hunting is EXHAUSTING. Who even wants to stay up past 8pm, when you get up (not the women, but the men) at 3am for a morning hunt?

My guess, you feel guilty because maybe you would be hurt if he did the same? I don't know, I'm not a strip club kind of person and thankfully neither is my hubby. I guess, take his acceptance that you went as a good thing, but maybe take it into consideration in the future and the decision to partake in any other similar activities with the 'widows'.

**lizzardb63** · 11-21-2010 10:43 PM

Well it was the first and only time i ever did anything like that, and he said they usually go one night to a strip club, which i don't care. He knwos he just can't touch them. Which I did not touch these men in any private area at all.

**Colorado** · 11-21-2010 10:46 PM

Originally Posted by LanaBear

Hey now, hey now, hey now.... lol, not EVERY woman thinks that. I don't! For one, where we go hunting is about 3 hours from civilization and two, I go too! Besides all that, I've learned hunting is EXHAUSTING. Who even wants to stay up past 8pm, when you get up (not the women, but the men) at 3am for a morning hunt?

My guess, you feel guilty because maybe you would be hurt if he did the same? I don't know, I'm not a strip club kind of person and thankfully neither is my hubby. I guess, take his acceptance that you went as a good thing, but maybe take it into consideration in the future and the decision to partake in any other similar activities with the 'widows'.

Ok LanaBear, you got me there I should not generalize, but I was just referencing another unfair generalization. But you also have to admit that there is a clear majority that have suspicions about it.
There really are some of us that arent drooling sex maniacs - I never drool! :0)

Seriously - I don't cheat - ever - Nor do I do the strip club bit - I have no reason to. I go hunting to hunt! as do the great majority of the folks I know.

**LanaBear** · 11-21-2010 10:49 PM

Originally Posted by lizzardb63

Well it was the first and only time i ever did anything like that, and he said they usually go one night to a strip club, which i don't care. He knwos he just can't touch them. Which I did not touch these men in any private area at all.

You probably just aren't comfortable with it and don't feel that's how you need to get your 'thrill'. Don't let it eat you alive. Kudos to you though, if I wasn't going hunting and there were plans for the guys to go to a strip club (lol, which I can't even imagine, they are there to tag out and that's about it), anyways, more than likely, hubby wouldn't be going on that particular hunting trip.

**LanaBear** · 11-21-2010 10:52 PM

Originally Posted by Colorado

Ok LanaBear, you got me there I should not generalize, but I was just referencing another unfair generalization. But you also have to admit that there is a clear majority that have suspicions about it.
There really are some of us that arent drooling sex maniacs - I never drool! :0)

Seriously - I don't cheat - ever - Nor do I do the strip club bit - I have no reason to. I go hunting to hunt! as do the great majority of the folks I know.

I agree... I don't know though, that thought has never even crossed my mind, even before I started going on these trips. There have been plenty of 'guy' weekends from ice fishing to backpacking and the possibility that a strip club would be involved wasn't even a thought in my mind.

**lizzardb63** · 11-21-2010 10:52 PM

I mean it was fun and nice to look at hot guys, but I'm going home to my man either way. It was just a night to let loose with the girls and not care about all the crappy stuff for once. I thought I'd feel guilt free, but I don't. Perhaps its just a learning experience that I know I wouldn't enjoy it that much now.

**LanaBear** · 11-21-2010 10:57 PM

Right... You wanted to see if it was something you'd enjoy, how you would feel, react, etc. You found it wasn't for you, no harm, no foul, move on and like I said, don't let it eat you alive.