Thread: Is he just intending one thing??

Not all men just want to get women in bed. Maybe he does like you for you, at least what he knows of you. Many men, myslef included, go by first impressions and make their minds up as to potential of any woman within a very short time.

I knew that I was crazy about, in love with, or whatever the woman I am with from the very first picture I saw of her. Sound crazy? To me too, but it happened to me and I can't explain how or why.

It does appear that you are letting what happened to you in your past interfere with your present. I would do the same thing, it's natural to protect oneself from additonal harm or wrongs.

I'd advise you to let your guard down a little bit. Go out on several dates with the guy and when you feel ready to share intimacy, then go for it. Not before and not until YOU are ready.

If he tries to push you, or coerce you, or convince you to share intimacy before you are ready, then he is no gentleman, he is a toad.

Women don't date toads.

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I agree seeker. Take your time and get to know this guy, if he just wants sex he'll probably try to push you into it or he'll get bored waiting.

But if he wants more than sex he'll enjoy getting to know you and things will get to that point naturally.

I would advise that you have to try and not blame this guy for things the ex did, it's a sure way to push someone away

What are some things he's doing specifically that make you feel like he's just trying to sleep with you?

Beautiful disaster - he says a lot of sexual things to me all the time. Werid jokes about how I woke his UHHUM up....I was just eating food. Too lazy to go get a napkin :S ( i'm a big baby! i shouldnt be at my age ). Sometimes, he'd actually say I turn him on....................... This other time he said he " can't stop thinking about me sexually ". He doesn't seem to like to call me by my name? he calls me " beautiful, sexy , goregous and a bunch of other werid pet names ... He said he wants to sleep with me. That's pretty clear enough plus that and " thats what condoms are for "...

I think you have to send VERY clear signals of what you're willing to accept in this relationship right now and what you're not willing to accept. It's very normal early on in a relationship to feel intense attraction towards someone you have good chemistry with. And if he's attracted to you physically and mentally, then sure....he's going to think about sex. What you have to establish with him is whether or not him expressing that to you is acceptable (and it doesn't sound like it is).

Perhaps you could tell him when he says something like that "I really like the fact that you're attracted to me...as I am to you....but I'm not ready for sex yet and when you bring it up alot it makes me feel uncomfortable and pressured."

Set your boundaries. If he can't respect that, reconsider dating him. Just be sure you're not sending mixed signals.