Thread: Please I really need your advice.....I feel so lost

HI Ladies,
I really can use some advice here......Lets see I will tell you a little history of how me and my guy i met....Well I was in a terrible marriage another province away from the man I love....We became friends off of facebook...actually we met on speed date.....I left that abusive marriage and became really good internet friends with my guy....He gained my trust and well the internet thing went on a more intimate level, calling each other on the phone and spending many nights chatting up a storm on the net till all hours of the morning....He finally convinced me to come here to meet him, he offered to pay for a hotel room for me while he would stay at his place but I told him that wouldn't be necessary...
I came and met him and it went really great, so I made my mind up this is the guy I want to be with so I went back home and made all the necessary arrangements to relocate so I can see this man more often...So I moved here.......We would see each other on the weekends......and things became serious...but something seemed a little odd.....he would be getting text messages during the night as we would retire for the night.....other times he would sneak into the washroom for 20-30 minutes at a time.....Well me feeling skeptical about his behavior one morning while he was showering I reached for his cell and seen all the other women that he had became involved with off of face book...and how he would call them sweetie and sweetheart and how he couldn't wait to meet these other women....This went on for about a good 6 months until one evening at his place he was texting this other woman back and forth for about 3 hours straight I gave him a ultimatum and told him he had to choose between the other woman or me.....He couldn't make up his mind so I took a hotel for the night with my daughter.and i had everything ready to move back home. The next morning he said he made up his mind and that it is me he wanted to be with......So I told him I wanted those women that he was trying to seduce off of his facebook and deleted from his cell. He said he would but again that was a lie......He would still be texting them as I would check his cell from time to time at this point I moved in with him. So I took it upon myself to see if he owned up to me and told these women that he and I were in a serious relationship and that we were living together. The women informed me that he never not once mentioned me or gave them any indication that we were in a relationship or living together. One of the women were really happy I told her and she believed me and well that back fired on him, however there were other women that he convinced that I was mentally instable and that what I told them was all a lie.......

Finally as he was hurting me doing this for 8 months I told him I had enough and determined to leave him, he finally told the women about me however a lie again he told them he had just met me and was not sure where our relationship would go, but insisted that they remain friends...... anyways after dating for almost 2 years here I am living with him he never bought me any gifts such as flowers or anything....not even valentines day the day we moved into our new home. Not one rose or a card I was hurt and his good friend told him as I heard him talking in the kitchen. His friend said didn't you get her anything for valentines day? and proceeded to say what kind of boyfriend are you? He insisted that my boyfriend go with him to the store.....He convinced my boyfriend to get me a rose and card....wow I must say I was shocked.......

Out of two years of being together the only gifts he got me were a rose one valentines day and a bouquet of assorted flowers for mothers day and once got me 6 roses and well maybe took me out for 3 dinners in a really nice restaurant, other times would take me for a coffee at Tim Hortons. and no other gifts for my birthday he got me a chain that says I love you that was worth about 40.00.
He makes double the money I make and I don't know if he is cheap that is why I am asking you ladies for advice.....He is always ranting and raving about how he has no money, which really stresses me out. What can I do please help me, cause I feel this is destroying our relationship.....Please help me

I don't think gifts are the issue here......I think you're with someone who lies, cheats, and obviously has little respect for you. I think it's quite clear this dude doesn't love you and you're setting yourself up for a lifetime of jealousy, mistrust, and cheating.