Its hard to get over an old love. I am in a similar situation myself. I met the man i thought i would be with forever in the 8th grade. we dated througout high school and then he tells me that he has been with some other female. I was ****ed but i broke it off and we remained friends because me and his mother became really close. So when she would tell me to come by and see her (i went off and had a baby girl and he had a baby boy by the girl he was cheating on me with) and show her the baby. it started all over again. we started to talk and he made a mistake because the girl turned out to be psycho. And to this day we still talk and see each other but its hard to get over him because he was my first. So ive been there but he doesnt have a job? What can this man do for you? dont leave your husband you will regret it in the future.

Its been about nine years for me. I dated this guy for about four years. We broke up still very much in love. He has a chronic illness and felt that I would be better off without him. Well I ended up marrying the next guy that came around. I married for all the wrong reasons. I never loved him. The marriage only lasted 4 1/2 years and was very abusive (mentally). After the end of the marriage, I had a year long relationship that wasn't any better then the failed marriage. About a year ago, I moved a couple of streets over from my old love. I drive by his house a few times a day. I think about this guy every day. Every day for the past nine years. About a year ago, my friend talked to him and he said he still loved me. To my knowledge, he hasn't been in a relationship since we broke up. I guess he thinks that he shouldn't be in any relationship because of his illness. I still love this guy and he still loves me. But even with that, no one can be forced to WANT someone. I sometimes wish that I could take a magic pill or wake up not wanting him, but I just cant seem to get to that point. He wasn't my first love, but sometimes I think he will be my last. I've tried to have other relationships, but I can't give my heart to anyone else. What to do?