Thread: how do you get over an old love?

Its been about nine years for me. I dated this guy for about four years. We broke up still very much in love. He has a chronic illness and felt that I would be better off without him. Well I ended up marrying the next guy that came around. I married for all the wrong reasons. I never loved him. The marriage only lasted 4 1/2 years and was very abusive (mentally). After the end of the marriage, I had a year long relationship that wasn't any better then the failed marriage. About a year ago, I moved a couple of streets over from my old love. I drive by his house a few times a day. I think about this guy every day. Every day for the past nine years. About a year ago, my friend talked to him and he said he still loved me. To my knowledge, he hasn't been in a relationship since we broke up. I guess he thinks that he shouldn't be in any relationship because of his illness. I still love this guy and he still loves me. But even with that, no one can be forced to WANT someone. I sometimes wish that I could take a magic pill or wake up not wanting him, but I just cant seem to get to that point. He wasn't my first love, but sometimes I think he will be my last. I've tried to have other relationships, but I can't give my heart to anyone else. What to do?

You mentioned that he is a womanizer and can't hold down a job?? That should be enough to give you a sigh of relief! How would your life be with him like this? Not happy, I'm guessing. You wouldn't have the children that you have now, and you wouldn't have the opportunity to stay home with your kids as you would be trying to make ends meet. Enjoy what you have and celebrate not having to deal with the disaster that could have happened. Lots of people marry their high school sweethearts, but for the most part, it doesn't last. A teenager cannot make reasonable decisions at such a young age. Think of things you did in highschool, and later in your life when you think of these events, you say to yourself "What the heck was I thinking when I did that"? Young and foolish....