Thread: Lonely and in pain

lala it hurts because you know at that time you two were still a couple, and even if you found out after the fact, it is painful to know that someone you were with was unfaithful. It brings up all kinds of thoughts and fears - fidelity, insecurity, emotional pain. Not to mention this guy was abusing you as well. If that is not a hurtful situation I don't know what is. Sometimes when we are treated so poorly we cling to the familiar. It sounds like your ex is that person for you... but you know better than to go back. And that hurts too.


This guy sounds like he is full of problems, and I think you should thank your lucky stars that you are no longer with him. That is something to be proud of that you saw the situation for what it was and got out. It sounds like the woman he cheated on you with is not as strong.


I really hope you are able to go to counciling and discuss with someone your hurt feelings and figure out why you still care about this man and how you can come up with a new life plan that will benefit you and your young child. You both deserve the best that life has to offer!

Best of luck to you.. I know it hurts now, but eventually you will see just how blessed you are to be out of that abusive relationship, free to make positive choices for yourself and your daughter!