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Within in limits. I have a couple of very good friends but neither like to discuss anything about sex, which me, being me, does limit the conversation.
Ladies how many of you have a real female BFF?
I have been thinking about this since I saw Oprah on the Barbara Walters special. I can honestly say that I have not had a real female best friend, since grade school. All of my best friends are male and have been for the majority of my life. Maybe because I have 5 sisters, interesting...
How many women can say they have a real female best friend? One that you can share everything with...
Before you talk about what you want ~ Be happy with what you have
Within in limits. I have a couple of very good friends but neither like to discuss anything about sex, which me, being me, does limit the conversation.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
Not I. Not since High School. I've got plenty of friends, but nobody I would share everything with. It was exhausting to have friendships be all about the other person. If I wanted to talk, the conversation quickly turned to them and their problems. I got tired of always being the person that put forth the effort of get togethers, phone calls, always being the person everyone asked to help when they needed some help, etc. It wouldn't have been bad if it was returned, but it never was.
Seriously, my closest friends are a few people on this forum. Besides that, most all of my friends are guys.
Last edited by LanaBear; 12-29-2010 at 09:00 PM. Reason: I'm learning to spell, lol.
Friendship Prayer
May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
Amen
Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
One....
I call her "sister" she's Scotish and we met 20 years ago...We were fortunate enough to live together, travel and meet together, and now facebook or skype... 2 years ago we spent NYE together...
She is the only one that I would move mountains for.....
All else have been acquantances whom you think are friends at first.
Funny....I wished two merry xmas, and invited them to my engagement, one didn't reply and the other said it's her daughter's birthday "yes" I have had another baby take care...
I could loose sleep over it but it confirmed something to me...ALL my female friends in my life, bar my "sister" always expected me to visit and call and keep the friendship....because I didn't have children ( a business was my child)...Now I ask you is it not "both" that have to work at maintaining a friendship? Why always me and because I don't, I'm off the list haha....
I too have a few male friends who are genuine and real....
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Well, I feel better now it's not just me.
Before you talk about what you want ~ Be happy with what you have
Definitely not just you!I do sometimes envy the close "girlfriend" relationships some of the ladies I know have, but oh well.
Friendship Prayer
May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
Amen
Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
You are not alone I don't have any bffs. Honestly I have no friends I guess you can say, I keep to myself most of the time which is alright by me. My sister is probably the closest girl friend I have but we don't do a whole lot of talking. Most of the people I do end up talking to are males which I much prefer because girl talk about clothes or shoes or the bachelor for example bore me. I like quading, getting dirty camping, and not primping myself which is why I like to hand around the guys. But no close friends really, I will go out with my bf and hang out which I like to do but they are not the type of friends that would ask only me to go out and hang out type thing. Other than those few guys my bf knows no one texts me to say how's it going, no one asks if I would like to go for drinks to watch the hockey game, no asking if I would like to meet up for a coffee in between classes at school etc. I kinda prefer the quiet life like that but it would be nice to have just even that one gal pal to watch a movie with or ask for personal advice and such.
There are those who believe that dictionaries should not merely reflect the times but also protect English from the mindless assaults of the trendy.
I have a few close girlfriends, but I met my soul sister in 3rd grade and we have been inseperable sisters ever since. I moved schools and ended up in her school for 3rd grade. We met my first day when she invited me to sit next to her. From that day on we were sisters. She was the only black kid in our class, but neither of us really ever saw our differences, we'd dress like twins on field trip days and proudly sport our Best Friend necklaces. Her parents decided to move away our 5th grade year. They thought she'd be better off in a bigger city where she could have more friends of her race and feel like she fit in more. Talk about complete devastation. We wrote each other letters daily, had our families driving to meet each other on the weekends, and finally it got to the point that she and I were both so unhappy that her family got their old jobs back and moved back.
We went all through school together, then rented a house and lived together all through college. A year after college she moved to CA (about 2500 miles away from me), but it hasn't even put a dent in our friendship and if anything we're closer than we ever were. We talk every day. A year after her move I "accidentally" found out she is bisexual and was involved with a woman. She feared what I would think of her. But again, it never put a dent in our friendship. Now I just ask her very inappropriate questions and we laugh.
"Be what you're looking for."
"The next time you're thinking of kicking someone when they're down, offer them your hand and help them back up instead."
So far, 1 out of 6. After reading a few posts tonight, I remember why I don't have one...
Before you talk about what you want ~ Be happy with what you have
I guess I'm very lucky. I've had my fair share of flaky girlfriends who were really only my friends out of convenience and then ditched me like yesterdays news. Ya know, the ones that only call when their boyfriend (whom they revolve their entire being around) is gone. But I never have to worry about that with this girl. She may disappoint me at times, and I may disappoint her.......but there's love there. Real love. It's truly an awesome thing to have.
I also consider my mom to be my other best friend. It's the same thing, the unconditional love is there, and we can depend on each other through thick and thin despite disappointments. We don't just have the mother/daughter relationship anymore, we have the friend relationship where we can pretty much tell each other everything.
I'm very blessed.
"Be what you're looking for."
"The next time you're thinking of kicking someone when they're down, offer them your hand and help them back up instead."
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